Can a 5-6 years old child be a Homosexual ??

Question

Hi,

I am married and have a child.
I have strong gay feelings. I searched internet to know if gayness is in harmones or it could come accidentally or by any other circumstances.
I can still remember very clearly, when I was a child of 5-7 years old, i use to think to make love with a male and that feeling is still with me up to now when I am 34 and my feelings became more gay as I grew up and never stopped.
I hate my gay feelings and always wanted to get rid of it but couldn't !! I often asked myself where did these feelings come from ????? then I can find only one answer, "I am GAY by birth" as I can still remember my gay feelings for the first time when I was 5-7, when I was 8, 9, 10 and then throught out my whole life up to now. If it is not by birth, how comes I was a gay when I was just 5-7 years old when a child have no sense of sexuality??

Your answer may help me to sort myself out, Thanks

Answer 1

No a child has no idea of complex relationships like sex. Children do learn from their parents, so your acceptance of the gay lifestyle will effect your child immensely.

You are gay because that's what you choose. You could choose to say no and walk away as well. It's mind over matter. You should be able to train your mind to control your body. Your body shouldn't be in control of your actions.

Answer 2

Considering that children who tend to prefer to play with toys normally associated with the opposite gender is a very good indication that they'll be gay, yes, children can indeed be gay. Gay people have to come from somewhere =p Looking back, I can find instances that certainly provide clues as early as around 5 or 6.

Now that I've answered your general question, allow me to tackle some of your biggest issues. It sounds like you're in a really rough patch: in the closet and married. Sadly, there is no good solution for you. If you are gay, to live a happy life, you should consider breaking things off amiably. It would only help you be a better father and man, because you can be neither if you're depressed in large part from hiding who you really are. I really suggest seeing a professional psychiatrist or psychologist to help you "sort... out" these issues, because it's not an easy situation.

Answer 3

I believe one is attracted to the same gender from birth, that's the same with heterosexuals who are attracted to the opposite gender. I like to call it "homoamoric" since before puberty no one really thinks about sex. I remember when I was that age, I still thought about "marrying" a guy. I had a crush on my neighbor's cousin, who was a teenager then. I was not exposed to any gay person, heck I didn't even know of the word gay till I was 16 and when I actually under stood what it meant. I didn't talk to an openly gay person till I was 19. But I can say I was gay all my life, because that's how I felt about guys.

Answer 4

When I was about the same age I knew I had an attraction to men in some way, it was by no means a sexual thing but I knew I was different. As I grew older and I went into my teens and the hormones kicked in and I realised what gay was it was then that I knew.

The sexual attraction to men only began in my teens before that is simply just an attraction.

If you're gay you're born that way but people realise they are at different stages of their life. There's nothing to say you'll know that young. Some of my friends didn't know until they were in their teens or even older than that. It's just the way things work out.

Answer 5

Just because children don't generally have a sense of sexuality doesn't mean they don't get crushes on people. I remember having crushes on boys as young as 4 or 5, my brother had crushes on girls at the same age. Now he dates girls and I date guys, so not much has changed.

And think of it this way: Every reputable study done in the last 25 years says that sexual orientation is determined by the age of five, at the absolute latest. Some suggest we are, indeed, born gay. So yes, you definitely could be gay at 5-6 years old.

Answer 6

same experience here!! But as far as 'gay @ birth', I wouldn't call it that; I'd just call it 'born different', for whatever that's worth at the time of birth. Let the listener be the judge. And those feelings at 5-7, and 8,9, & 10 can't be answered with factual theories. I think everyone would have a different opinion about that. But I can relate to what you felt; I felt the same things at those very same ages. I liked girls and always wanted to kiss them and touch them on their "monkey" but I also would get excited when I was around certain boys in my class and would get turned on by the smell of their skin. I remembered liking their features and wanting to touch them. As a kid we don't what name to put on those feelings, but now that I'm an adult I know it's called 'admiration' and liking the smell of their skin is called 'fetish'. As a kid it's different, but innocent; there's no knowlege but instead, a feeling; a feeling we don't know is sexual, but none the less, a feeling. As an adult there's knowlege AND feeling, and sometimes pursuit. Whether innocent or not, the FEELING has always been there, and always will. My advice? Stop trying to name it and just embrace it.

Answer 7

I knew I was gay as far back as I can remember...before I even understood what sexuality was...I knew I was different, and that I liked guys.....when I was in the presence of older boys, I felt warm inside...enjoyed their company.....so yeah, I think we are definitely born that way.

If you are gay, you cannot get rid of it....many have tried, many have failed...you end up hurting yourself and those around you. It is not so bad being gay....I have never had a bad experience...I have been in a relationship with a guy for 17 years...we have a great life, great careers, great friends...I am at peace...and know I am much happier than I would be if I were living a lie like Senator Craig, Ted Haggard, Ted McGreevy, or any of the other long list of people who pretend to be straight.

Best of luck to you...I challenge you...be true to yourself....you cannot deny your God-given sexual orientation...it takes guts to stand up to the world...but, it is well worth it in the long run.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Yes I was the very same but I chose not to marry, why? because I am gay, now you did, if you have no kids then get out of the marriage , its only fare that your wife gets the full deal, and not half, the same applies to you, your young enough to start out with a guy, so follow your hart and do the right thing before you grow old hating yourself, and spoiling a good womans happyness, you know am right, and hey I am free.
Regards
Ryan DiorXX

Answer 10

simple answer is yes. A person is gay and there is no "age" when it happens. Only thing is the child may not really realize they are until they are into or through puberty. But as they get older they will realize they kind of like some things more than other children do yet they are nto goign to act on their little likes until late ron so it really doesn't matter.

Answer 11

you do not decide to be gay. you are born gay or not. but at 5 or 6 years old, since a child is too young to even be aware about sexuality, it is very hard to tell. but maybe there are signs that make you feel that way.. but just wait a bit longer, until the child is like 15 or 16. it's just impossible to know at that age..