Why do I keep walking away from jobs and making a mess of my life?

Question

It is becoming a habit of mine to get sick of every job I get after about four months and I just don't show up. Is this a mental issue I have? I lost my father last christmas and have no drive in me since. Any advise on how I can get my head around to my old self and be proud of going to work and not feeling sick the night before on the thoughts of it? I don't need therapy! I know that much for sure.

Answer 1

You're just not into the jobs that you are getting. Try finding your niche' and getting a career that involves your passion. What do you love to do? That's the area you should focus on for a long-term career. But you still need an income for now, try sticking to one job.

Obviously the jobs are a turn-off to you, and you are trying to avoid the job. But you have to be responsible and earn a living, it's not healthy to keep quitting jobs. It can turn into a pattern if you continue to do this. The last thing you need is a chopped up resume. Employers will look at it as though you won't stick around at their place of employment long.

Try seeking some type of grief counseling, maybe the loss of your father could be bugging you more than you think, or are willing to admit. It doesn't mean you're crazy, if you seek therapy. It just means you have the wisdom to reach out for a helping hand. The best of luck to you hun.

Answer 2

I think you haven't found your niche, the thing you can do that would fire your enthusiasm, the thing you would really shine at because you love to do it. When you find out what it is, it won't be like work at all, you'll have such satisfaction from doing a good job, and being paid for it as well .... bliss.

In the schools here, they give the kids aptitude tests to highlight their strengths, and give them ideas about possible future careers. This might help narrow down the areas in which you could be successful - up to now you have been working by a process of elimination - dipping your toe in, but finding the water not to your liking. It's time to try a different approach.

Have your friends been a support for you, listening when you needed to talk? That is therapy, and a trained person might be even more help because you will be guided in a way that allows you to find your own answers, without preaching or judging.

Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck and know your dad would be very proud of you.

Answer 3

You dont mention how old you are, and I think that is a factor.
Did you always suffer from malaise, or only since your dad passed?
Are you taking the nearest available job, whether it suits your talents and/or interests...or are you getting jobs you normally would enjoy and are just unable to maintain your performance?
I have found that it takes anywhere from 6 months to a year to really "OWN" your job, to where you feel a real responsibility to the job and the co-workers you have there. Once that hump is behind you, you can really start to get comfortable and enjoy the job.
I disagree that you dont need counselling. You are asking for counselling by posting your question on YA. Perhaps you meant to say you dont need psychotherapy, and that's probably accurate (altho I think we ALL can benefit from it, no mater HOW healthy we are!!)
Anyway, I think you should ask yourself if you are taking dead-end jobs, if you have social or performance anxiety issues, or if you are suffering from the normal grieving process associated with the loss of a parent.
Also, even in jobs we prefer, there still is very little "joy" in getting up and going to work every day...that's why it's called "Work!"
Do some reading about your situation, and try to find ways to enjoy your daily endeavors. You need to find a career path that you truly enjoy, but you cant get to that until you figure out what your malaise is all about.
Good Luck...hang in there.

Answer 4

Im sorry about the struggles of your life. But you are on a dangerous ground. Right now you are desperate and in need of help. So there are many people out here that will take advantage of you. Including a church if you go to the wrong kind. This is what you should do. Call on the name of Jesus and see if that works. Ask him to come into your heart and forgive your sins and cleanse you. Believe that he is the Son of God and that he died and rose again on the third day. Then go find a church and seek help. 100 % sure it will work. The Lord will carry your burdens for you. Follow him and find true life. Read a King James or NIV version of the bible and start in the New Testament. This is your salvation. I don't know when God will bless you with a job. But if you believe in him, he will take care of you. Sorry about the length, but this will help you if you truly do find God. Do Not Worry Matthew 6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[e]? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Answer 5

You talk about "therapy" like it's some great shame. It's not, and it's PRECISELY what you need. And it's not due to any fault of yours. Clearly there was something about your father and his death that had an affect on you. It happens to a lot of people. But you don't have to go around feeling so depressed and worried. There are plenty of ways to talk to mental health professionals. You don't need a Psychiatrist necessarily. You can talk to a Psychologist or a Clinical Social Worker. If you go to school, there is probably a counselor available in your school. If you don't go to school, try your local hospital. Ask if they have a free clinic. Don't suffer another day. And you'll be surprised at how better you'll feel just by making an appointment. Just remember this depression is a sickness like any other sickness and NOT something to feel ashamed of EVER. Get this taken care of. It won't go away by itself and will only get worse. Good luck!

Answer 6

Rather than going to a job, try doing something creative that you can choose to produce yourself.
This type of habit, as you put it, may have occurred anyway, regardless of your father passing away.
Many people in life become bored with fronting up to the same old grind day after day.
Many of my friends have opted out of working for someone else, due to the lack of choosing that which may have been stifled for a long time.
How do you think that artists come about ?
certainly not by pandering to the whims of others.
Your therapy will come from within, by seeking a profession, or talent that will make you contented.
People develop, and move on to varying jobs/talents every day of the week, now it's your turn. Have a go.

Answer 7

Well, put it this way and I'm not trying to offend you or disrespect you in any way; but, would your father be proud of your bad habits? He wouldn't have wanted you to turn out this way. He must have raised you better and I can sorta see it in the way you explain yourself. Plus, somebody who wasn't raised in a good way wouldn't be feeling guilty like this and posting it searching for help. So I know your on the right track to picking yourself up.
If it's so hard for you to keep your drive on a certain job, at least take the responsibility to give in your two weeks notice or at least tell them. What's the worst they're gonna do? They can't force you to come in to work.
If it's boredom at work, then find a job that you like to do and have fun doing. The atmosphere and people in your workplace make a big difference. Try other fields of work other than the jobs you have been working at. Maybe you don't think a certain job is for you until you try it. Some people I've known went from a boring office job that paid more than mall jobs came in to apply to a retail position because of the atmosphere. I went from a retail position to an office job.
It's all a matter of finding that groove again. Don't give up and you'll catch that wave again.

Answer 8

NO you just don't think it's exactly what your looking for ,, the problem is you will work yourself out of a job in your location and you will have to move to get a future , hate your job but keep going everyday and like it or not { most likly not } you will have an income for your future.. think of it as a money maker..

Answer 9

maybe you think you don't need therapy. im sure that a professional therapist could help you with your problems more than people you don't even know on yahoo answers! honestly, not trying to be rude or anything.