Should we continue down the "It’s not the winning, it's the taking part" route? Has anyone ever been labeled a pushy parent?
2007-09-18 11:10:19 · 11 answers · asked by second only to trollalalala 5 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
kids need to learn about winning AND losing otherwise they might turn into spoiled little brats who think they can have and do what they like when they venture out into the real world.
2007-09-18 11:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have children but common sense tells me that some children will be naturally competitive - why surpress this. Isn't it part of growing up into a balanced adult that you have to learn that sometimes you win, sometimes you don't. Of course, there is the message that it's the taking part which is important and this is true. If a child is talented at say sport, then yes, it should be encourage - lord knows we could do with some gold medals!
2007-09-18 11:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teaching children to be competitive is a good thing, as long as the parent does not over do it. They also have to be aware that losing is not all bad, as some parents tend to give their children a hard time if they under perform, which can lower their self esteem. Children do need to be encouraged in competitive activities without making them feel bad if they don't do well.
2007-09-19 04:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are naturally competitive since they are humans where survival of the fittest determines who gets the prize. Better to encourage children to be the best they can be without worrying about the reward except the personal satisfaction that your all was given.
After thought: It is much harder to be a good winner than a good loser. I endeavor to instill this in children I teach. It is a real eye opener for them, allowing them to see another's viewpoint so difficult for young minds so focused on themselves. Since they can readily relate to being on the losing side and feeling the taunts, they quickly realize that winning is not everything. In fact, winning often carries a higher price than losing.
2007-09-18 11:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by budrow54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its not realistic to play up the everyone is a winner stuff. Also some recent studies have shown that all the "you are very special" no matter what you do or dont do stuff helps develop narcissistic traits. We are all going to have some but too much is just too much.
I wouldnt push a terribly sensitive child into competitive things though, but for the average kid, on occassion- i think its ok.
2007-09-18 11:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my 4-year old in Stage school cause she loves dancing. I went to the show at the end of term and she was being thought 'bad toes, good toes' ballet style. Now she is doing contemparary dance. I'm happier. And i am teaching her that it is about being the best at what she does. They do the same foot exercise in her new class. But they name the moves after animals :-)
2007-09-18 14:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should not continue down that path because once children get out of school they find out they have been lied to.
2007-09-19 01:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the mental psyche of the child - NOT the parents!
2007-09-18 11:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by captbullshot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
competitive YES, obsessed with winning NO
2007-09-18 11:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not you want to go through their life being screwed!
2007-09-19 21:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋