The name he has chosen I changed my mind (I believe I have that right lol).We were never 100% on the name but now I'm like 99% set on another. It does include the middle name he chose and also his last name which is a pretty good deal I figure...Anyhow...I'm trying to comprimise but he always gets upset.He is not being open minded at all an won't even CONSIDER another 1st name. I don't think this is fair. Anyone had this or a similar problem. What was the solution???
2007-09-18 11:03:58 · 22 answers · asked by .:Adrians' So Handsome:. 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Some swill say it is ultimately my decision since I am doing all of the work...but I wanted it to be a joint decision and I don't want him to HATE his son's name.
2007-09-18 11:06:05 · update #1
THE NAMES:
HIS: Jaizon Ashaun (jay-zon...NOT Jayson lol)
MINE: Julian Kaleb (I was willing to use Ashaun if it would make him happy)
2007-09-18 11:14:13 · update #2
I don't wanna make it seem like we're arguing over this...just not coming to an agreement. So he's not a bad guy...just stubborn. All couples...EVEN MARRIED couples have disagreements. Other wise they wouldn't be normal lol.
2007-09-18 11:20:32 · update #3
Oh gosh, I hope you go with your choice. Jaizon is going to be pronounced and spelled wrong forever, and it sounds silly. Julian is classic and handsome and looks literate and educated.
Your husbands combo looks like it ryhmes (I may be saying it wrong, but that's not a good sign either).
Julian Caleb is wonderful.
I do like the idea of compromising though, and possibly allowing the husbands top choice to go in the middle name spot. Of course, I think both parents should like the name, so if he has something horribly against Julian, then I suposse it should be back to the drawing board.
Good luck to you and your family!
2007-09-18 11:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Verity 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, the names are similar, so it seems a compromise SHOULD be possible (though with men you never can tell). Instead of only using your personal preference as an arguement -- thougha good one ;) -- have you tried appealing to his sense of reason?
Don't get me wrong here ... I'm not insulting either name choice in any way (though his pick isn't my style, to be honest). Regardless of whether you like his choice AT ALL or not, however, you might try spinning it so he sees things your way. For example, you might mention that Jaizon IS very close to the very-popular Jason, which is common for both boys and girls at the moment (I'm sorry if that wasn't the name/spelling you mentioned ... since it wasn't in the original question, I forgot LOL). Likewise, it's quite similar to quite a few other popular names -- Jadon, Jaylen, etc. (all with various spellings). Your choice is actually much less common, especially once you add all those names and spellings up. Jaizon would just be another Jay-, know what I mean?
Along those same lines, you might point out that while all those Jay-s will likely seem very dated by the time your son is in high school, Julian's usage doesn't fluctuate nearly as much, and will still be just as attractive when he's older.
Hopefully you see what I mean. You can go back and forth about who loves what name more until the poor child is out of diapers, but trying to bring other factors into the discussion might help sway him. ;) Hope that helps!
2007-09-18 11:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
what are the names?
2007-09-18 11:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that if talking it out isn't working that you should have a contest... Anything serious or silly to decide,
Winner gets first name
Loser gets middle name
Then be serious and make the agreement that it's a FINAL decision...
Just make sure that you pick something that you are good at so you have a good chance of winning if you have your heart set on a name! Good Luck and it will all work out in the end and you will Love you son and one day you will wake up and realize that his name really does fit him : )
2007-09-18 12:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally like both of your names better, but it is about compromise. i think the two of you should try to agree on a name. i think if yall use the middle name he choose then it would be fair to use the first name you choose, if hes not willing to compromise with you then just use the name you want. after all you are doing all the work, i think you get to make the final decisions
2007-09-18 11:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by aydensmommie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something you should both decide on. If you don't want his decision to be the baby's first name let him know why. Work it out together, maybe you can make it his middle name. You have time, you will work it out, but do it together.
2007-09-18 11:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by angelwings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be able to sit down and compromise with you.
I mean after all its both of you guys kid but in deed you are the one doing all the work.
Sit with him and tell him that it takes 2 to make the baby and it should take 2 decide on what the baby's name is.
it has to turn into a win win situation
he will understand
2007-09-18 11:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mozzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had that problem, I had my heart set on the name Grace and he had his name set on Ashlea. I liked Ashlea at first, but the more I thought about it the more I just didnt like it, and now I absolutely dont want it. To settle things, since neither of us wanted to budge, We threw out both names. Now, for first or middle name we arent going to use Grace or Ashlea (or Ashley or Ashleigh or Ash--whatever) ;)
2007-09-18 11:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like Julian Ashaun.
2007-09-18 11:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by ♥JoAnna♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would compromise between the two. You pick the first name and he can pick the middle name. there will be bigger decisions than baby names.
2007-09-18 11:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Christen T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋