What can I do to make my husband take better care of himself with work?

Question

lol I know it's a funny thing to complain about but I am so scared that he is going to get severely sick from being worn out. My husband installs cell phone sites and works nights then days and ust keep switching. The thing is last night he went to work at 8pm and didnt get home until 4:30pm today.. now is planning on going to work at like 9pm tonight (i know he's working i do the bills)... I am really angry at him. He can say "no" if he wants to about working but is insisting that they need him. So obviously he was mad that i got mad, but how do I let him know that I am just worried about him and convince him that he needs to take care of himself....
I did tell him I was worrie and he is being dangerous.... he gets angry at me :( I just want to convince him,, how?
Seriously... 4 hours of sleep in 40 hours just isnt safe.. especially when he drives 3 hours to and from.... this is about his health BTW just found a hernia

Answer 1

my husband works ALOT too, we have had the same arguements and anger with eachother about it....he's not going to stop unless you really really convince him of the dangers....do some research...pull statistics of people the get in car accidents from sleep deprivation....pull all kinds of health statistics about sleep deprivation....if that doesn't work...threaten to leave him...tell him you didn't marry him so that he could be gone all the time and risking your future together by being a dangerous moron

Answer 2

Either he's a real go-getter,
Or he wants to avoid something at home,
Or he needs money for some reason,
Or he's fooling with a supervisor who keeps him on the clock while they're fooling.

I've got a #1. I've lived with him 23 years, and I cannot make him slow down. His head hits the pillow and within 2-3 mins, he's asleep. He has a back condition and when he works too much or too hard it begins to hurt. There are lines of pain around his mouth. He's barking orders at the teenager. Can I get him to slow down? No way. I have a chronic illness, and I need his support. At one time he said he'd take 6 weeks off his job just to help me get well. Yeah. One afternoon earned me "making up time at work" most of Saturday.

Back to you, sorry, I digressed. I'm pissed right now, can you tell?

The more I look at this, the more I think, he's on crystal meth. Gives you tons of energy, even without sleep, and provides a need for ready cash. What about crack?

Maybe I'm way off base, but I'm throwing in all of the possibilities so you can weed through them and maybe understand what's going on.

Sorry, I'm probably maligning your man. I hope you'll be able to rope him in one day soon and at least have a candlelight dinner together.

TX Mom
Not an expert

Answer 3

It seems that your husband is a work-aholic. They find it almost impossible to slow down. Now with the hernia, he may get some well rested time off. Maybe with all his knowledge he could have others trained to do part of his job. I was the same way. I was afraid that if I stopped working that I would be replaced by someone else. I had to take an early retirement because I developed kidney disease and diabetes from all that fast foods and lack of proper sleep. Do whatever you can to change his style of working so that he will be around for a long time.