What do you do when life gets you down?

Question

I have recently started feeling low and negative feelings are starting to take over.

People always think Im happy and cheerful because they see me smiling most of the time - but inside I feel so dark and miserable.

Why is this?

I have a great career going. I am financially well off. Have good friends..etc

I'm 25 - for info.

Thank you everyone for your support and kind answers.

You've already put a smile on my face. Thanks again.

Zarrah786 - I think you have hit the nail on the head..Thanks.

Answer 1

I really do understand what you are talking about and have been there myself, and my heart goes out to you.

What I found with myself, was that I was smiling on the outside and breaking down on the inside because I didn't want anyone else to become aware of my situation, as I wanted to deal with it myself. Now, In terms of the negative feelings taking over and darkness, this happens to everyone including myself recently, and I have just come to the conclusion that taking each day at a time is a good start to bringing back the good feelings. You said you have a good career and good friends right? So when you wake up each morning, think of the good things in your life and take it each day at a time, because if you do, then things will become alot brighter sooner then you realise.

So many people in life have resigned themselves to giving in, but giving up in life is to easy. Take it each day at a time, stand up, dust yourself off and carry on with your life because at 25 you have so many wonderful things heading your way!

Smile....

Adam (who is 22 by the way) lol.

Answer 2

You need not forget the sense of humor - tell your dark insides a little joke that only you could know..it'll make you chuckle and smile even more. Take sometime to laugh at yourself too..that's a good start to self-realisation. Enjoy it. You are young and healthy and have a career to think of. Do take some time out for yourself. Laugh a little. Can't think of a joke when you are feeling down..use this one..my dog got no nose...oh gosh..how does he smell? Awful!
Failing this..try a week long vitamin b-complex supplementary to help you gfet over whatever it is your down about. Complex helps to give back the drive you so need. Good luck!

Answer 3

Depression would be one obvious reason. However, I believe that just being alive entails feeling low from time to time. If it is prevalent and lasts all day and for most days, then I would advise that you go to your doctor or a counselor about it. However, ask yourself about the key areas of your life. Are you really following the path which you set out to do? Are you feeling isolated or lonely although you have friends? Are there any problems in your family? Or is it low self-esteem? I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Im the same at the moment and in the same situation either its relationship issues or i think life has just gotten stale if you've got a great carreer and financially well off it might be time to head for a new goal?

Answer 5

Find someone who respect and trust to talk to. Someone you can be real with and she/he will be honest with you in return. That can be hard to do with a family member or coworker so look elsewhere if necessary (ie. a counselor, therapist, support group buddy, online friend, a doctor, spiritual advisor, etc)

This workbook may be helpful.
Overcoming Depression One Step at a Time: The New Behavioral Activation Approach to Getting Your Life Back (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by Michael E., Ph.D. Addis

http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Depression-One-Step-Time/dp/1572243678/ref=pd_bbs_12/104-0237530-4560701?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1190149608&sr=8-12

Also, be sure to look at your diet and exercise program. Meditation or yoga may help. If you are spending too much time focusing on the job, maybe you need a vacation or look into a fun hobby.

Answer 6

1st I ask myself whats wrong especially if there is no outside reasons to be sad.
2nd I watch what I call my feel good movies. For me it is Arthur and it's a wonderful life. You must find yours
3rd I get a journal and just start writing the first thing that pops into my head no matter what it is
4th I just cry my eyes out and maybe scream a lil
5th I talk to a friend
6th I just let myself be sad, emotions are normal to feel know matter which ones they are. being sad is a part of being just like being happy is.

Answer 7

i think youve just got to a point in your life where you dont see a future anymore
it seems like youve been putting on a false facade for a little while and now its important that you shake yourself up and add meaning to your life
everyone has highs and lows - that is a fact in life that nobody can change
but seriously you need to get up and running and take every opportunity that comes your way and also convince yourself that you wont be as emotionally depressed with yourself as i feel that it is humans emotions that get in the way
find something that you really want to do and commit yourself to it - spend some time with your family - i think its really important that you have someone to share laughter with
'life is too short' so enjoy it while you can and stop mopping about :)

Answer 8

nicely *maximum* of the time i attempt to discover the "silver lining" so which you may communicate. Be helpful, and know that no longer something can final continuously. There are different cases nevertheless, I admit, that i detect myself in a droop and the main suitable factor i'm able to do is take an afternoon to cry myself out. Get a field of tissue, curl up in a corner and stay there. it incredibly works! As the thank you to make R&S regulars experience extra perfect...i'm able to tell them a lame shaggy dog tale...supply them a drink..and merely oftentimes act like a goofball till they snigger. If that dosent paintings...tickle them.

Answer 9

Like you I have the same outgoing persona...
But I get myself down because I concern myself to much with the simplest of things , but not for the wrong reasons...
Sometimes we just have to have a relaxed or more relaxed attitude to-words the situation in hand. Try to let things go bit by bit and focus your energy to more uplifting ideals or hobbies.
If that fails then music, you just can't beat your best song
Works for me every time ..
Hope this helps

Answer 10

It's difficult, isn't it? Especially if you feel that your cheerfulness is what defines you. I've been there.
I find that exercise really helps (liberates those endorphins in your brain to make you feel a sense of well being). The other thing that helps me is an awareness that I am genuinely pretty cheerful and that my down spells are typically temporary - the sense that they pass makes them seem much less of an issue. Please don't beat yourself up for feeling down - it is normal!