why do some guys have a problem with paying FAIR child support?

Question

once its been proven to be your offspring, if thats necessary, whats wrong with paying your fair share of things for the child(ren)? that should be roughly half, unless your ex is a millionaire and you work at mcdonalds, but even then, take the kids clothes shopping in a while. if you love your kids, wouldnt you want them to be taken care of in the best possible way? now the system is played alot by some smart women who choose evil, and sometimes guys get the shaft. but im finally looking at the statistics, and most of the judgements seem pretty fair. ive never been there in that position, but it seems to me that paying for a child goes hand in hand with co-parenting one. and if you never see your kids, then thats low down. whoevers to blame for that is not doing the kids any favors.

thats true, there are deadbeat moms too, thats just as evil, for the same reasons. even more so, actually.

im in the reverse situation. i dont know what i would do if my ex wife didnt help support our children.

Answer 1

Because they don't care, I had a father who refused to work because he had to pay child support. Woman actually pick a great guy at first, and it all changes when you have a child.

Until you have had a kid, or have gone through the experience you have no right to say. I agree men should pay child support, but what about the other way around? Why doesn't the Mom ever pay child support if the Dad is raising the kids? Why does the media always put the evil man in the spot light, he's the bad one. Should Britney Spears be paying child support?

Answer 2

I can tell you my fist wife took me to court and I could not go. it was out of state and i was in the military and couldn't afford to go and couldn't get the time. Anyway i got screwed, and could barley afford to live. I paid because I had to and live on food stamps and free food from the state because of my low income. i was also lucky enough to be awarded all the bills and she got the paid off car my dad bought us.

I was in the military at the time.

determining half is subjective and each state if different. In Texas guys get the shaft while in other states it is more reasonable. We kept our devorce and child agrement in AZ because they allow us to work up our own agreements (withoput lawyers or court).

I finely took my x back to court and lowered the child support even after I doubled my income. that is how screwed I was getting. To day we have an agreement that we both can live with and that is only becuse she know i can afford to fight back now.

the thing that gets me is i would have been happy to take the kids and not get child support. i wanted them and I figure that if i have the kids I am getting the best deal. My x and many other women get vindictive and use the kids and child support to get back at the dads. Then they say how evil the dads are.

I had my son live with me for a year and the only way I could get the x to agree is to continue paying support whle he was with me. So please don't act as if most dads are bad because that is not true.

Financially getting married is the worst thing a guy can do. You just gave away 1/2 or more of your things and when she leaves she will take the house and get another guy to pay for it. i am married not but would never ever do it again for finacial reasons alone.

Answer 3

The reason probably varies. Some guys may have begged the woman to get an abortion. A step dad may take a kid thats not his to be his own. The flip side to that is that a father who didnt want to be a father cant just be shamed into acting like one, especially when having the kid was against his wishes in the first place.

Some guys may have bee cheated out of seeing their kids by their ex and the court system, and figure that if everyone wanted him out of the picture, thats what they would get.

Im sure some guys dont have those reasons but are just cheap and/or cold.

Answer 4

I think it has a lot more to do with not wanting to just give someone that you are no longer in a relationship with money that you don't know what they are using it for, then it does with not caring about the kid.

My ex is court ordered to pay child support and 1/2 of our daughters daycare. He had no problem paying the daycare, but had a shhhhhhitfit about having to pay the support part, because he didnt think he should be giving ME the money, and didnt know what I was doing with it. So they now garnish his check each month.

I think that parents should equally support there children, men/women who dont have there kids fulltime and don't financially support them, are going to hell.

Answer 5

I think child support goes unpaid by men who either cannot really survive and afford to pay it or just plain selfish and don't givbe a crap for their children. I personally think the law should be harder on men who don't support their children. Children should not suffer for your own selfish reasons, but they should benefit from the dollars that will help put food on the table and a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs.

I don't however support the greedy women who are sitting at home milking the men who are decent men and paying for them to enjoy such lifestyles they were once subjected toowhile married. Support the kids and not the wives, girlfirends.

This is my opinion/.

Answer 6

The fact is if you treat your ex right and realize YOU and him got the divorce and not the child I don't see where there ever is a problem.

Most ex wives want the kid and the money, leaving the ex husband a broken person.

The fact is while married most families have a hard time making ends meet. What makes you think being divorced should be any easier?

I would bulk at turning my hard earned money to an ex for her to spend who knows where and on what.

Answer 7

I will speak first for myself. We calculated by a formula provided by the law of the state of Georgia. I am paying more than that by far. In fact, I take only a little for my basic needs and give the rest, including the house and the pickup, to my wife and children.

I think some men are having a hard time making ends meet. Maybe they don't know how to budget well, or how to manage their financial affairs. This is true for some women too.

I will not judge others, because I don't know what it is like to be in their position. I leave it to them to sort out, and to follow their conscience. I follow mine.

Answer 8

I don't have kids but I think most people don't pay child support because they don't like the fact that the parent with custody of the child gets to control how the money is spent. You would be surprised how many guys would pay for all their kids costs if they absolutely knew that the custodial parent was getting non of the money.

Short answer is: They don't pay out of spite for the custodial parent.

Answer 9

Well at times not every one has the money.

Girls do not always pay there child support either I have about $7,000 owed to me now. I know having some extra money each month would make life easy for me and the kids but I don't lose sleep over it.

Answer 10

I guess their is nothing wrong with it, but I guess most men dont get enough money as it is so they dont liek paying. And another problem with is, most girls take their ex boyfriends to child support for revenge, then to get support for their child. I see it on maury. Girls say they taking there boyfriend to child support soon as its been proving. What im saying in essence is, if your gonna take someone to child support for the right reasons- not revenge or a grudge- then its ok