Do most women fall for "the wrong guy" or women do wrong picking?

Question

Is the idea of picking "the right one" at fault or too ambitious?
Instinct or cold reasoning?

Too much "Math" for women?
given that they have more options,factors readers and deciding neurones than men's limited options,faculties

Answer 1

It is probably a little of both. Look at Me. I asked the wrong Woman for all the right reasons, and what did I end up with? An experience that ruined my chances for happiness with the one Woman I should have spent the rest of My life with. The same no doubt applies to the wast majority of Women who have found themselves locked into a loveless marriage.

Answer 2

The allegation/s come from a gal ...? Some of the answers from the guys are really worth to think. Group A : On the one hand there are gals with all intellect, sober approach with no "tight shirt big butt" things, well planned life with orientation for better carriers, all professional approaches like " work with no plays" etc. Group B : With all ads on the body, dress and body languages , casual and talking, nothing planned and never appearing calculative, no concern for careers. Do not use fences for new friends. In all the above cases, the guys may fall for the wrong women to be proved later. But, as a first choice the Group B may appear to be easy to handle for them. Opinion differs.

Answer 3

The right guy is not 'boring as hell.' Obviously if he is, he isn't the right guy for you. (Sorry if I'm not answering the question here, but I've got to address this.) Your right guy or gal shouldn't be tailored by the expectations of society even though some people make it out to be that way. Their perfect person must exceed or fall below a certain height; they must carry a certain amount of good looks, intelligence, what have you. If you found a person suitable to your liking, then screw everybody to hell. The right person may be boring at times, but that comes with every person. The fact of the matter is, s/he will hold a strong place in your heart and that is far from boring under most circumstances.

As far as the question goes, mmm... the right type of person depends on an individual. Someone 'right' to me may not be 'right' for someone else (OK that word is getting old). Depending on their status at the moment, they could end up meeting their soulmate tomorrow. I think we change our expectations, we mold them to become more realistic. And this type of molding and changing is continual, to a certain degree. When you find your person, it just kinda remains stagnant. You change as a person, but not so much in the sense that you did before.

Does that sound confusing or WHAT?! haha

Answer 4

i think there are a lot of factors involved but i think a lot of it is trial and error. i do agree that some women are horrible at picking men because they have perhaps a lack of good character judgement or easily blinded by physical appearance. i think some women know when they haven't picked the best mate but that often presents a challenge which we like but often fail at. and you also have to take into consideration that people change. i woman could be totally content with her mate for 10 years but he then develops a gambling problem, or cheats on her and end of story. i think most women wonder "why the hell do i keep ending up with freaks?" but i think sometimes it just takes a while to figure out someone is wrong for you.

Answer 5

Two thumbs up for 'wayfaroutthere'...I think you've hit the nail on the head!

The comment about women selecting men being an erroneous conclusion is exactly right...as men are still the aggressors in the dating world the vast majority of the time. Sure, there are women who see someone they want and go after him, but they seem to chase him until he catches her! LOL.

We women can have the greatest of intentions where 'guy selection' is concerned, but when an 'interesting' guy comes along, all bets are off. At least for the short term.

Answer 6

I believe women just get caught up in the moment or they are desperate at the time. Later they realize that they did what they did for all the wrong reasons and simply say they "fell for the wrong guy" because that is how society views a women who wants to break up with a guy for no real reason.

Answer 7

The odds are against them.

Here's the way I see it.

The odds are against women for two main reasons:
1) The socially accepted strategy for a women to get a man is to look pretty and wait for one to approach her.
2) A really good guy finds a good woman and sticks with her and she sticks with him.

Now when you combine number 1 with the aftermath of number 2 you get a bunch of women waiting around for good guys when the majority of the guys who are left out there in this little game are the "bad ones."

The bad guys are either just terrible/mean/whatever and almost always single because the women leave them. Or they have little to no respect for women and have nothing stopping them from cheating. Thus, these guys are constantly on the hunt for more women. This is why the odds are against women who are just waiting for a man to come along.

One of my favorite quotes is this:
"There's a difference between beauty and charm. A beautiful woman is one I notice. A charming woman is one who notices me." ~John Erskine

If I'm in a public place where this approaching (hitting on, whatever you want to call it) may occur. I generally see the beautiful women constantly being approached by guys. So I figure, she has plenty of attention already. If she wants something better, she can step it up and come say hi to me.

So far, I've only met great women in this manner. But then, I only like strong women. To each his own.

Answer 8

Ok first off not to much math, you just have alot of men pretending to be sheep in wolves clothing. Some are hard to pick out from the rest that are just natural bastards. Women want to be loved cared for nurtured, and you have some men that come off like they have these qualities. Some of us get blind sighted while others lay back and observe the situation. Its a matter of when to put your guard up and when to let it down.... which is a very hard thing to do once you are on the defense. But if all men were naturally good guys it wouldnt be hard for women to decipher who is good and who is not. But with the stereotype that all men are dogs.... ALL women should just proceed with caution, lol.

Answer 9

Women don't pick men (except for a few smart women), men pick women, and then women decide yes or no each time a man gives her a choice.

The wrong guy is usually more interesting and seems more fun, and by the time she figures out all the bad stuff that goes with having such an unpredictable, stubborn, self-serving person (as those interesting fun guys are), she figures it's just a problem with men, and wishes for a guy who's surprises are always nice ones. Then she breaks up with him, and looks for antother interesting guy.

Answer 10

They don't read the signs they just work off emotions. If they like, they take, without thinking hmmm will this badboy be good for my future or will he break my heart. Well thats what most woman like the drama and exitment of the unknown. Woman don't like a guy that wheres his heart on his shoulders.