my boyfriends daughter is 6 years old he had her for all theses years and now her mom comes to us about a year ago and says i want to see my daughter so we do let her see her now she got parting time she had not came in seen her daughter in a week and she missed her days is there any way i can help my boyfrined get full cousty of her we have to go to court to see who gets full cousty and who gets what is there anyone how can really help me ive got 9 days to the cort date please help me
2007-09-18 08:09:20 · 5 answers · asked by shygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This little girl needs stability. She already has one mom that in and out of her life, she doesn't need her daddy bringing in more women. If this little girl already thinks of you as more than just a lady she met once or twice, then it's time you married the guy. You should have never met the little girl until you were ready to marry him and be part of her life. If you aren't sure what you want then you have no business trying to be a part of this legal mess. For now, you just need to step back and let him handle it and whatever he decides, support him in. If he is going to be a part of her life, then you should be a very minimal part of his life. You should NOT be more important to him than she is. You make it sound as if you have equal say in helping your boyfriend decide what to do and yet, you still refer to him as your boyfriend, not fiance, not husband. You are too invested to NOT be married. You should not ever stay the night in the home unless you are married to the DAD. Do what's best for the little girl. She needs a mom and a dad, and she needs them to be constant in her life. If you aren't going to be a part of it forever, then don't be a part of it all. That is way too mean to this little girl.
2007-09-18 09:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by C T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the mother is dangerous to the child she should be able to have regular visitation.
Missing a week is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.
Step back a little and get a grip.
2007-09-18 15:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by alanastarkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend wants full custody of his daughter, he should speak to an attorney, who would be able to work with him to be able to prove to the judge that it's in his daughter's best interests to be with him full time. If you don't meet this court date, you can always file a motion for an amendment to the custody agreement at a later time.
2007-09-18 15:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this doesn't really involve you, there's not much you can do. This involves the boyfriend and his ex. You don't get to decide whether or not the ex sees the child. You and she(the child) have no legal, binding relationship. I'm not trying to be rude, but you aren't even her stepmom, since you aren't married to her dad. Like I said, I'm not trying to be rude, but the reality of it is this doesn't involve you. Your boyfriend is the one who needs to do all the work. All you can do is sit back and watch.
2007-09-18 15:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear God. CUSTODY!
2007-09-18 15:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋