Is it really possible?

Question

Why do people feel embarrassed,bad or angry when they are laughed at?Is it a natural human trait?i have OCD (already receiving treatment for it) which embarrasses me in public and i have seen people laughing at me and call me names.Is it possible to totally ignore or develop immunity against such things?Thanking everyone in advance.

Answer 1

If you concentrate on you.....it will be easier to ignore. People can be cruel and to be fair if things were explained to some they would feel remorse.

Answer 2

You shouldn't be embarrassed because of your OCD, you have just encountered some nasty people who don't understand.
I think it is natural to feel shame when you have been brought up to, and you can also switch off that shame if you know it's not necessary.
Only the other day I saw an old friend of mine on the bus and called out his name as he got off the bus, only to find he had his walkman on and couldn't hear me. It would have been worse for me had he just ignored me for no reason, but I realised why he had and didn't even care about what the other passengers thought. There was no point in feeling shame for something like that. I know that a few years ago I would have been mortified, but I couldn't take that moment back and so why feel bad about it?

Answer 3

It's natural to feel embarassed when jokes are made at our expense because we feel a need to belong and fit in within our society. When we are picked on by others, we tend to take what is said to heart and wonder if it's true. More often than not, we do this due to low self-esteem. If we don't feel a sense of belonging, we wonder "what's wrong with me"? However, as we get older, we have more experiences and grow a tougher skin. We realize that there are circumstances far worse than people calling us names or laughing at us. We begin to focus more on ourselves, instead of what other people think of us. When an unkind remark is made, ask yourself, "Does this really matter? Will this affect my life? Is this going to matter next week, next year"? Be realistic about it. Why do you care what other people think? Build your confidence and engage yourself in positive, uplifting activities. Hold your head high and blow off the negative comments.

Answer 4

Rejection is difficult for most people. We all want to be accepted. Usually, when people make jokes and laugh at someone, it's because they are uneducated on the topic. It's sad that their parents hadn't tought them differently. I can say, 'ignore them' and you can to a certain extent, but it will still bother you. Just know that there are those of us out there that understand and won't make you feel uncomfortable. Hopefully, you will find more of us than them. Just remember how bad it makes you feel and don't put someone in that position. Good luck.

Answer 5

There is a great power that is lurking on the left that keeps all things in goodness away from you in seals. The seed of goodness was given when your born but you have to always be on the RIGHT PATH so you can find the way to salvation and truth within yourself and others.

Honesty is the best policy and there is no better person than one that tells the truth all the time. Then you can help them easily and yourself.

Answer 6

It is possible for you to rise above the idiocy of these people. They laugh because they are embarrased, feel inadequate, dont understand or sometimes theyre just plain rude. It takes a lot of self esteem and confidence to genuinely not let it bother you, but you can do it. Its a normal reaction to feel upset when people laugh at you, it is a demeaning experience. There are probably self help groups and books by sufferers of your condition which can give you help too.

Answer 7

There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.

Answer 8

You get callused eventually.
Once you realize, these people aren't looking out for your best interest, they aren't paying your bills, they are ignorant,
they aren't your mate or family and their opinions mean nothing, it gets easier to blow them off.
They are so insecure in their own life's, it wouldn't matter if you had no problems, someone will always find a way to try and pop your bubble.
I suggest you find a church to get involved with. Or some other support group you see in person.(face to face)
I know the anti religious button pushers will slam me on this.
But being around people that are trying to better themselves, is better than being around LOSERS
GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 9

Age puts things into perspective for us all.
I am quite clumsy and people do tend to find it funny where as I find it very embarrassing at times.

The media will say laugh at yourself first but that is not the answer, I changed my whole life and my set of friends, now I am happy content and I am not so clumsy.

Answer 10

I have a medical condition also that is extremely visible. Its something I was born with.

My husband, Mum, Dad and sister all have the same condition too. Being laughed at is something you never become immune to, just used to. The more you get it the more it will become easy to ignore. For us its just like "yeah, yeah go on laugh, its not like we haven't heard it before!" Lol!
Seriously don't let them get to you, your better than them and they ain't worth it!!

Answer 11

its a natural human trait to get embarrassed when someone laughs at you or when you do or say something goofy in front of a crowd of ppl.
Well sometimes I still get embarrassed when someone catches me doing something goofy or "not cool" but you can learn how to deal with that by ignoring ppl who really don't mean a hill of beans to you.