Do you ever just wake up and say to yourself "I cant live like this, this is too much stress"?

Question

Do you ever just take a step outside yourself and look at what you are and not like it? Or feel like you are killing youself with stress, worry and anxiety? Do you ever just stop youself when you wake up in the morning and say, "no more, Im going back to how I used to be"
Im a one of a kind kind of person, Im sure if Jim answers this he'll vouch for me, Im sorta my own shaolin priest, I came to a point where I felt like nothing could ever upset my inner balance, but now I realize that inbalance is part of balance, it is the counter to the latter, not that I hadnt before I guess, only now I realize that I have been completely out of whack. I have a fear, every day, (Im not even kidding u) that the sun will explode. Its like this huge paranoia and I know its irrational but I cant stop thinking it sometimes. I have a fear of losing my self, or identity but this ive heard is just part of being a teen... well have at it, answer the first question please, and then

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Answer 1

Ah my friend, how I wish I could just reach through the computer and give you a hug right now - you are wise beyond your years.

The average person doesnt even begin think of these type of questions until they are into thier mid 30's or early 40's (if at all). I am sure there are a few out there that think of it early and more so that think of it later.

You, being as young as you are, are in a very unique position. You see - most people - when they begin asking this question - are already set in their ways and they dont want to chnage themselves - you - however - are actually seeking the answer and willing to do something about it - this will change your entire life. The onlyreally problem with all of this is that its going to take a "life chagning event" to be the catalyst before you realize hwat it is that will change you.

Now, while you seek answers - you are stuck with ONLY what you currently know - this limits your "box" size. I grant you, your "thinking box" is much larger then anyone else your age (that I know of anyway)...none-the-less you are still limited to your "box" size.

For me - the car accident at age six was my catalyst - your catalyst is coming - you will know it when it happens because it will shatter everything you believe right now and alter your way of life. It would not surprise me if something like, oh - i dont know - maybe a chance to go to a real shaolin temple comes up - or something along those lines - you go - and when you are there you realize how little you really know.

Well, I seem to be getting off subject a little here so let me get to your questions.

1. Do I ask myself about living like this and too much stress - yes - all the time - the stress is there because I allow it to be there and therefore I can get rid of it if I choose to. Stress is induced because we allow things around us to bother us - if we didnt do that we wouldnt have the stress problem.

2. Do I "step outside" of myself and see myself for what I am and not like it - yes - quite often - I try to change those things I dont like. This becomes a very conscience effort. I have to constantly remind myself over and over to change thigs and slow down in situation so as NOT to go back to the other way.

3. Do I ever say I should go back - a big resounding NO tothis one - you see - its impossible to happen. Yeha I know you think its not but really its not - heres why: once you know the truth about the situation - you cannot deny the knowledge of it or else you will be lying to yourself - thats impossible to do. You might be able to convine or justify your actions of old - but in the end you will realize you are lying to yourself and change things to what they are NOT what they used to be.

Your fears of the sun exploding - well - ask yourself a simple question at this point in your life - is there anything you can do about it?? You should not fear that which you cannot control, it is going to happen on its own time - if the sun explodes - then it explodes - if it actually happened our deaths would be instantaeous so there really isnt anything to fear.

Your fear of loosing yourself or identity - well - this is what you make it. Currently you are identified to others by your name - ask yourself - whats in a name - its nothing more then a common way to recognize a certain thing sothat when people communicate they are talking about the same thing. Is this the identity you fear to loose - it should not be - you have plenty of names - my friends call me jim, my coworkers cal me jimbo, my kids call me dad, my dog calls me ruff and my cat calls me meow. The "name" as the identity is really meaningless unless used in communication of some form or another - the "indentity" of the "YOU" - what makes you reallly you - has nothing to do with anyone else - it is 100% in your control and NOONE can ever take that away from you.

You see - the "YOU" is in the way you think, its in the things that you learn and the morals that you develop. Whatever is in your head is your - it can never be taken away from you unless you are dead. It is ALWAYS there sitting in your subconscience even though you dont realize its there. Its what makes you think and do the things you do. This can never be lost - only matured and cultivated to become what you want to allow yourself to become.

WOW
I am really making this too long - people will become bored with such a long answer - LOL - better stop here - if you want to talk more drop me a line or give me a call

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I do, sometimes only though, not everyday. I cannot describe the feeling, but it's really something negative, sort of something that literally crushing my chest. I wakes up with that feeling and just feels like I can't get through the day.

I think it has something to do with depression