Hello everyone, I have a friend who is pregnant by a man who will not marry her and is marrying another women.The man is willing to pay child support but my friend want him to live with her and be a father which he denies to do.Should she still have the baby? or have an abortion?
2007-09-18 05:06:45 · 13 answers · asked by Polar Bear 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She can't force him to do anything (other than pay, via a court order). So if she isn't prepared to raise this child on her own, then she should think about other options; adoption would be a very loving choice to make, but abortion is also an option that is legally available to her and it's ultimately her choice - it shouldn't be about what you or anyone else thinks is right for her, because they don't live her life.
2007-09-18 05:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend can make the father pay child support, but she cannot make him marry or live with her, or for that matter have anything to do with the child. She needs to realize that if she has the baby she will be doing so as a single parent.
Being a single parent is hard but it is rewarding. The choice to keep or abort the baby should be based on her personal feelings, NOT the reaction of the father. If she wants the baby then she should keep in and spend her pregnancy reading up on being a single mom. If she dosen't want the baby, then she needs to decide between abortion and adoption..
Mindi
2007-09-18 12:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused about the end of your question.
It sounds like she wants to have the baby and have the dad live with them and be a family---but you are asking if she should have an abortion???
So, if the guy won't live with her then maybe she shouldn't have the baby?
Good grief. Please think about how that sounds---the baby is only worth it if it means the guy is part of the package.
Say the guy left the other girl and moved in with your friend and they had the baby---what is to stop him from moving out when the kid is 6 months old?
Plus the guy is marrying someone else and he got your friend pregnant---is this the kind of guy your friend should be trying to keep???
She should have the baby and if she doesn't want to keep it then give it up for adoption. There are tons of people who want to adopt a newborn. This way something positive will come out of this relationship and she can be proud of herself for helping a childless couple.
If she wants to keep the baby and have him support it, fine.
Either way she needs to start thinking about what this baby means to HER (and her life) rather than thinking about it in terms of getting the dad to do something.
Plus, there is another person involved here---the baby.
2007-09-18 12:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by bookmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think it depends on how old she is. She has many options other than keep it or abortion. She can give it up for adoption, ask a family member for help, take it to any hospital once born and never look back (in some states). I think if she really wants to be with a man that does not want to be with her she is surely not in a healthy state to raise a child. As for the MAKE HIM TAKE CARE OF IT CRAP... Yeah I have a court order for child support and my kids are now teenagers...NOT once has ever paid anything. And HE is on welfare not me... He won't work and lives off his friends and family. SO if this guy really is the lazy bumb he sounds like I wouldn't want to make another one of him. Good luck in whatever you choose though.
2007-09-18 12:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by jjjjulie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants the baby and she has the emotional ability to do it as well as a steady income, I don't see why she shouldn't have the baby. Second, she doesn't need the father to live with her. If he knocked up your friend and then moves on to another woman that he's going to marry, what does that say about him? The baby doesn't NEED this man in its life.
2007-09-18 12:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by MissTina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an awful reason not to have a baby. She should have the baby and give it up for adoption, if she doesn't want to do it alone. Abortion is not the only alternative.
2007-09-18 12:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if she can't handle the baby alone then she should give it up for adoption. Doesn't sound like the father wants to be with your friend so she needs to decide what she is capable of doing.
2007-09-18 12:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a dumb question...
She wants to kill an innocent baby, HER baby because some guy won't live with her? Tell her to be a woman, not a kid &take some responsibility, he already said he'd help.. why would she even consider that? Did she just get pregnant to trap him?
2007-09-18 12:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by ˚despeяate housewife˚ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to her to decide if she will want to or be able to raise the baby alone and without a father, because that's the way it's looking like it's going to be. If it were me, I'd get rid of it.
2007-09-18 12:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should definately keep that baby and screw the man, he has to pay her anyway and she can do so much better! A friend huh!
2007-09-18 12:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Born Country 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋