Is it ok to go on vacation without your husband because we argue a lot and i feel like i need a break?

Question

FROM EACHOTHER BECAUSE I FEEL DON'T MISSE EACHOTHER ANYMORE IS LIKE I DON'T WANNA GET HOME SO WE DON'T ARGUE.IM GOING WITH MY BEST FRIEND TO SAN DIEGO HE DON'T WANT ME TO GO SO AS SOON HE SAW THE DAY GETTING CLOSER AND CLOSER HE CHANGE AND STARTED TO BRING FLOWERS AND GIFTS. THE THING IS THAT NOW I FEEL MISSERABLE AND LIKE IM A BAD WIFE BECAUSE HE SAYS HE WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO ME WHAT SHOULD I DO WE BEING MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS NO KIDS

Answer 1

Take your vacation/break, he is either realizing that he's been a jerk and trying to make amends or he's just being a jerk and trying to control you. If he's trying to make amends things should be better after you get back, if not things will get worse. I think you know what to do after that...

Answer 2

Go, have fun. He is just afraid of losing you so now he is acting right. Everyone knows San Diego is an awesome city with LOTS of attractive men. I am sure your husband is feeling insecure and a bit jealous. The time apart will do you both some good. He can see what he has and what he may lose if things don't get better for you two.

Answer 3

It seems to me that you two need to work things out. You guys need to find out what you are doing wrong. If you really care for each other it is time to try and salvage the marriage. I wouldn't think that a vacation on your own would change anything, on the contrary, it could get matters worst. I would suggest for you two to go on a vacation, something like a second honeymoon. It could be that your major problem is the lack of communication. The worst thing a couple could do when having problems is to run from the problem. You need to find out what the problem is so you two can try and fix it. I wish you good luck.

Answer 4

honey...Im going to give you some spiritual advice so forgive me in advance if it offends you. Biblically, you just dont do this. The only time you are supposed to be 'apart' from your husband is for prayer and fasting (and that SURELY isnt what's happening in Diego)...and you only do THAT for a short time and then quickly come back together lest you be tempted to sin against your marriage. You guys have been arguing...OK...maybe you both need a break; a change of scenery...some rest...together. If you need some room, maybe opt to double up with your bestfriend and HER husband, and then you can have some girl time away from the guys. If your bestfriend is NOT married, then you are setting yourself up for problems because she is single...and she's going to draw single men..and you are going to feel tempted to ACT single when you are with her..(keep it real-you know its true!). As nice as SD is (Im a native so I KNOW), I wouldnt suggest coming out here 'with the girls' as a married woman. That feeling you are getting is your conscience...because deep down, you know that going to SD is opening up a door to trouble. Resist the temptation my sister....Come with your husband instead.

Answer 5

Tell him that you are tire of arguing and that you need to talk things out not argue. I think you should get away for a while to think and this will give him time to think too. When you get back you can start fresh and new. This break will do you good and maybe him too. Tell him that you aren't mad at him but you love him and you want your marriage to work and by getting away you can relax and come back fresh and new.

Answer 6

Better a Vacation then living in different houses like me and my man. I hate it so much. Good Luck time apart may be good. A vacation is a great idea go get your mind straight. Good luck.

Answer 7

YES! We sometimes need a break from our spouses just like we do with the kids. Have fun and you never know, absence makes the heart grow fonder, *wink* *wink*

Answer 8

Go on the vacation! Absolutely! You already have it planned, you may have already purchased tickets/ hotel/ rental car etc. If you don't go, you'll regret it later. Your husband will be there when you get back. Definitely go!!!!

Answer 9

YOUR RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE MINE!!! MY WIFE LEAVES FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME TO VISIT HER FAMILY...ALWAYS HAS AND IT HAS HURT OUR MARRIAGE. SHE HAS BEEN GONE FOR AS LONG AS 2 MONTHS...SO WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? WE ARGUE ALL THE TIME, DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER, AND CAN NEVER RESOLVE ANY ISSUES THAT WE HAVE....THEY ARE SWEPT UNDER THE RUG. PLUS OUR SEX LIFE IS UNAPPEALLING...I BELIEVE WE ARE HEADED FOR DIVORCE...ONCE IT'S BROKE...IT'S VERY HARD TO FIX IT. NO IT'S NOT WRONG TO VACATION WITHOUT HIM...BUT DON'T OVER DO IT....YOU MAY FIND THAT HE'S FOUND SOME1 ELSE

Answer 10

You need a break. Have one. If your husband's peace offerings are genuine then they will be there when you get back. If not you will then know he was insincere. You can deal with that if and when it happens.