What are other reasons why couples get divorced besides cheating?

Answer 1

Too many people these days marry in heat, not in love. They are being ruled by their hormones not by their intelligence. You can never have a successful marriage partnership if you are fundamentally incompatible in a variety of vitally important issues. A Neat Freak is not going to make a good match with a slob, for example.
A guy might be a terrific sexual partner, a bundle of fun socially, and can attract women like flies to meat, but if you marry him for those reasons, and then have a child and expect him to stay home evenings and help you make formula and bath junior, you are very soon going to discover you've married the wrong guy. He may be a stud in the playground, but he's a dud when it comes to the serious business of being a husband and father. It means you were looking at all the wrong things when you were evaluating him as a marriage partner.

I don't know why it is that people - a lot of men do it too, but mostly it is women - seem to think that the character and personality of their partner will suddenly change the moment that person becomes half of the Mr. and Mrs. contract. If your guy is a spendthrift and every dollar he makes burns a hole in his pocket, that's the way he will continue to be, even when you can't make the car payment, or buy groceries, or diapers, or medicine. You may have been thrilled when he brought you the expensive gift for your birthday when you were dating. But now this isn't HIS money he's blowing, it's the partnership's money, and it is needed for more vital and important things.

In fact statistics seem to indicate that it isn't infidelity that causes most marriages to fail, it is fiscal irresponsibility on the part of one partner or the other. If you marry a guy because he's handsome and wildly romantic and knows just how to give you that tingly feeling but you KNOW that he can't hold on to a job, and he's out of work more than he's in it, bigger fool you if you think he's going to change and become a dedicated, hardworking, responsible breadwinner just because he went to the alter with you and said "I do" Not gonna happen.

When I met the man who would become my husband over thirty years ago, we did what very very few people ever do these days. We sat down and talked - about who we were as individuals, what we wanted in our future, and what we would want from a life-partner. Of course, as we continued our relationship we also came to see the kind of person the other one was, but we PAID ATTENTION to it, and how this person's character and behaviours met our expections or didn't, as the case may be. Some things where the other person "didn't exactly make the "perfect" grade, just weren't that important. My man never could match his clothes and would go out wearing a pair of bright green trousers with a mustard shirt and blue sneakers if nobody'd stopped him. But that was petty. I was going to be overseeing that anyway. What I saw was a man who treated his own Mom with tenderness and respect; a man who was hardworking and dedicated in everything he took on. He was passionate about the value of his word. If he promised you something, you could take it to the bank. But I needed to know another very important thing because I didn't have a maternal bone in my body, and I did not want children. I was over the moon when I discovered to my astonishment that he didn't give a damn about "perpetuating his legacy". He would agree to have children if it was important to me, but it was no screaming desire for him to be a father. So I knew exactly where I stood with this man, and who he was and what I was going to get with the package if I married him.

THAT is why here we are three and a half decades later, still living, loving, caring and sharing together. Anybody over a period of years is going to go through some ups and downs, some challenging events, a little hell and high water. But there never was a time when we didn't have one another's backs. When I was down for the count, he toted my load till I was up again. When he was out of action because of some health issue, I took up his half of the burdon and carried it for the duration. We both meant what we said at the alter that day..... For better or worse, in good times and in bad, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. It was a contract and a promise, and it will always be so till the end of this life's road.

No, it isn't by any means all about infidelity and cheating that breaks marriages. In fact, the cheating probably happens BECAUSE of the other causes. And those other causes all come back to the same thing.......... you got married to the wrong person in the first place, for all the wrong reasons, and because you had this wacky idea that "Getting Married" is the same thing as BEING married, and that somehow something magical happens the moment you are pronounced "man and wife". I saw a funny little one-square cartoon pic one time where the bride is giggling with her bridesmaids after the ceremony and saying "Woooo Hooo, I don't have to worry about dieting any more" Yep, she had caught her man, so she didn't have to work at it now. If you go into marriage with that idea, you will quickly find out how wrong you were.

Answer 2

The root of divorce is DIVISION. The bible says "how can two walk together unless they be in agreement". So if that husband and wife are divided...be it in how kids are raised, or in disclosure about money, or about in meeting each others emotional/physical needs...the division will create a spiritual divide. Once they are divided...satan can creep in to tear down the marriage. Lies, mistrust, and frustration start to build up...creating walls between the couple till they can no longer 'see' in each other all the beauty and love that they once had for each other.

What everyone said is true...but those are merely the branches (end results). The ROOT....is division.

Answer 3

I am sure there are many reasons and others here have named them. However, my reason for my divorce was his cheating. Of all the divorced people I know personally it was caused by cheating with one exception and that was alcoholism and abuse.

Answer 4

They just don't get along like they use to. For example they fight a lot or they don't share same intrest anymore. Also lack of sex. Some people are shallow and if maybe there spouse has gained weight or changed they don't feel attracted to them anymore. There are many reason's. Some people fight to make it work and some just give up.

Answer 5

Financial problems. Not getting along. Falling out of love and falling in love with someone else. Not wanting the responsibilities that go along with the marriage. Not wanting commitment.

Answer 6

Money
Taking each other for granted
Not willing to compromise
Disagreements about raising kids
Disagreements about in-laws
Abuse - physical or emotional
Married young and now don't have anything in common
Etc.

There are many reasons marriages end.

Answer 7

1. Money
2. Addiction (drugs, alcohol, gambling)
3. Abuse
4. Serious illness or life-altering injury
5. Irreconcilable differences (where to live, cannot agree on anything, one wants kids the other doesn't)
6. Compulsive lying

Answer 8

I would say abuse has to be a big reason. Irreconciable differences where they fight all of the time. Physical relationship has deteriorated. Could be issues related to money, step-children, grow apart, careers.

Answer 9

Finances - Kids - Work - Health...

When I was in pre-cana with my church -

The priest asked us to remember something -
Love is wonderful - But it doesn't put food on the table...
He reminded us that so many couples fall out of love do to lack of funds...

Answer 10

abuse physical emotional mental
incompatitibility
communication problems
inability to make changes or acceptance
money is my last because I know my husband and I survived 4 years with no money so... I'm talkin eating peanut butter out the jar, with no bread or anything else to go with it BROKE.

along with alot of the other answers on here