I am 20 years old, and I have been using drugs and alcohol since I was 15. Both my parents are alcoholics and I have a little brother who is seeing my father and I use on a regular basis. I want intervention, and I've tried going about getting help by myself, but I really need my family to be there with me. I know they know there is a problem here, but they just won't communicate with me about it. AND I'VE TRIED TO TELL THEM I NEED THEM. I don't want to look like a sorry blubbering fool. I am going to college and looking for a job. I want my little brother to see us take responsibility. I need advice on how I can approach my family with this, without looking like I'm starving for attention.
2007-09-18 03:52:39 · 6 answers · asked by LOLZ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sit them down and talk to them. REALLY talk to them. Do not accuse or point fingers. Talk about your addictions and the fact that you want help. Ask them for their support. If they are onboard, great! If not, move ahead without them. You can still get sober without them. It may be harder, but you are strong! And get into a program, either AA/NA or a rehab and then AA/NA.
Also, talk honestly with your brother. Again, do not accuse or point fingers at your parents. Talk about yourself. And get him into Alateen. They can help him deal with the insanity that all of the addictions in the house have caused.
Good for you for realizing that you need help and for thinking about the hurt that you are causing your brother.
Good luck to you both! You can do it!
2007-09-18 16:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a recovering addict. It would be no different than dating someone who is involved with a religious denomination or sport or activity or socail type of hobby. Time needs to be alotted for meetings and there are certain things the person must do but any addict/alcoholic who is working a solid 12 step program would probably make a better partner than most 'normies'. I would highly suggest that you attend al anon meetings and get a 'network' or ' group ' of your own so that you have support and can learn about the signs and symptoms that take place WAAAAY before the person picks up a drink or drug. Addicts in 12 step programs are learning to and attempting to live a spirtual way of life which can be very very rewarding and thats how we stay clean. If this man has 14 yrs + of complete sobriety, I would say that hes got a good handle on things. I dont know. Follow your heart. But remember that everyone has issues ... you could date a normie only to find out a year down the road that he has a porn problem, or thousands and thousands of debt or ...... At least an addict in recovery knows their vice and does what they have to to deal with it .
2016-05-17 13:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself am an addict.. i smoke weed.. and my father is an alcohol.. so i can relate... my father went to rehab years ago and he started drinking like 6 years after being sober... the only adivce i have to give is for you to go see a councelor or something along those lines.. yu can talk about your own addiction as well as your fathers.. maybe family counceling is possible... they can help with an intervention... and there are also meetings called Al-anon... thats spouses or family members of alcholics... they are helpful.. i have been to them myself... also for your brother.. there are meetings called al-ateen... and they're the same thing as the adult meetings.. but they are focused on teenagers.... at the meetings there are people there dealing with exactly what you are ... hope that helps.. lemme know
2007-09-18 03:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Nacotics Anonymous and get a sponsor to help you. When you both tell them they will see an honest effort on your part and will help you.
2007-09-18 04:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Paul E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get thyself out of that house at all costs, and get thy butt to AA. Get YOU sober first. You cannot help family members ever! They must want it first! You CANNOT make them want it. You will only keep giving yourself reasons to use.
2007-09-18 11:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Secret Agent of God (BWR) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is so difficult to say, but you don't need your parents right now.
You need alcoholics anonymous. Please go to a meeting right away.
2007-09-20 12:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋