I have read a few questions here by gay guys here who are actually asking how to handle bully's? Are gay men afraid to stick up for thsemselves?
As a gay guy - I have always defended myself and have gotten into fights and so on. I'm not gonna let some dude push me around.
What's up with this? Am in in the minority of gay men who aren't "sissy"?
2007-09-18 03:46:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't mean to come off as brash, but, it's not really hard to figure out how to defend yourself is it? It is a primal thing, correct? A natural reflex? I don't know, maybe that's just me.
2007-09-18 03:49:00 · update #1
yeah, im not advocating violence, but seriously, if you gotta throw down, then you have to.
2007-09-18 03:53:16 · update #2
some 1 tried ONCE i dealt with him real quick,its never happend since.
2007-09-18 04:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by tasty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all riding is such a turn on so don't listen to his moronic ***. Next, if he tagged your bike that's destruction of property and you could get him in a lot of trouble. Most likely he is just jealous or one of those guys who thinks they are the king when inside something is wrong. Either way make sure people know what's going on. Parents, teachers, your friends ect. In case he does damage something again or you ended up punching him one day (please don't) then people will know what has been going on. Try telling the principal or dean of your school about everything including the damage. Hopefully some adult can talk some sense into this idiot and he will stop. If the adults in your life and school are morons too then don't be afraid to go to the police. Bullying really sucks but hang in there. One day you will see him in line at the methadone clinic while you drive by on your way to your fabulous vacation home. Good luck.
2016-03-18 08:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not gay, but it's just the person and their personality. My mom always told me to tell the teacher, don't fight.. my dad was like "kick their @$$" But I've always gotten picked on in school until I respected myself more. I told the bulies to back the eff off, and they did. Now in the big world here, I am an assistant manager, so there's no room for being a push over, but I have had confrontations with people who try to test me because I'm nice...
I don't think all gay guys are sissy, I've seen some that are, just as I've seen straight women and men who are at times... But I really think it depends on when somebody says to themselves "Hey, I'm a person too, I respect myself more and they're going to respect me as well!"
Hope this helps and goodluck!
2007-09-18 04:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing "sissy" about defending oneself, and everyone, male or female, gay or straight should know how to do so. Seems like there is always someone out there who wants to start something for some reason. Be prepared!
People will only bully you if you let them.
2007-09-18 03:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a MX gay guy and as some of you may be aware, Hispanics (specially from MX) always like to talk with 2 or more meanings. Every time one or more of them try to bully me, I always strike back, I don't like to stay quite. But if they want to fight, honestly, I get a little afraid, but I do defend myself and (at least with my cousins that I've fought) I got their respect
2007-09-18 04:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discretion is the better part of valor. That said, a person can only be expected to be pushed just so far. Throw down ? Hell yeah, but only if you have to. And if you get your *** kicked ? Well its not the end of the world. But its best to be smart about these things and know when to pick your battles.
2007-09-18 04:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Telemachus R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not really open aby my sexuality in the outside world cuz i really dont think it's nobody bussiness but my own so i havent really had bullies. THe ones i had psuhed me around ...not for being bi nor anything but because i had a horrible trauma and i became really timid and shy and quiet and i never said a word.
these days things have changed though lol and i will freakin fight face to face if i have to cuz i had enough with the bs from stupid hateful ppl!!! i really admire men who defend themselves and r proud to be themselves : )...the ones that cant defent themselves though arent sisses so dont say that....we all come from different expriences..... : (
2007-09-18 03:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, although I'm not gay, I don't understand why you WOULD take crap from people. I would never let people bully me, people need to stand up for themselves,
HAVE ANYONE EVER HEARD OF A BAT, I'm not trying to be violent or anything, but if somebody is pushing you around, hey DEFEND YOURSELF
2007-09-18 03:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
gay guys people bully
2016-02-02 02:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not afraid to defend myself if need be. I have stood up to several guys who could very well whoop my *** but I didnt back down and oddly enough won their respect. but I will try to avoid violence at first
2007-09-18 05:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one colleague that ever bullied me also got me fired. Because bullying can be very subtle and sometimes there is no defense. I had no proof whatsoever, because it always and constantly happened when we were alone, and he was a great actor.
2007-09-18 06:02:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋