A woman called me telling that my husband has been cheating on me with her for 2 years now.What do I do?

Answer 1

Look for evidence. Can there be any truth to it? Talk to him about it and trust your instinct as to whether or not he is telling the truth.
For me, a phone call would definitely get my mind rolling, but it wouldn't be enough for me to leave. Anyone can call and say they are having an affair. I would need some physical proof of it before I made any drastic moves.

Answer 2

Before you talk to your husband about this call, seriously think if your husband has been acting differently than usual. You know like staying out late, being away from the home, having "wrong number" calls, having to leave all of a sudden, not being able to find him at times, etc. Maybe this other woman is just trying to break you two up so that she can move in on your husband. I seriously doubt your husband would have been having an affair for TWO YEARS and you not suspect anything, women can usually sense these things. I am not saying that IF your husband cheated on you it is okay, what I am saying is that this call sounds too suspicious to be true. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Yes, confront him - or set it up so all 3 of you can meet (but don't tell him or her that the other will be there otherwise they might not show). When you meet get as much of the truth out there as possible and then move on from there. If the affair is true your husband doesn't deserve you, but the good thing is you'll have the knowledge to make the best decision for yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't listen to these women saying "Confront him and ask him."

He will deny it until you point a loaded pistol at him. And maybe even then he will still deny it.

GET PROOF.

Car mileage. Is work 15 miles away? That's 30 a day X 5 days = 150 miles plus 50 on the weekend = 200. Then why is he racking up 450 miles a week?

Phone records, cell records, credit card records, and ATM records. Tough to have an affair without phone calls, money, and a car.

THEN, when you have PROOF, go ahead and confront.

Answer 5

First step (assuming this is all true) call a divorce lawyer.
Then confront your husband with the evidence, having packed his or your stuff prior to this, and either you or he leave immediately. Don't listen to any excuses, crying or promises he tells you. Keep a cool head and simply tell him it is over. As hard as that may be, if you have children and want to fight for custody, it will look a lot better if you prove are the mature one. Oh, also, go to the bank, if you have joint accounts, the money that is yours out of that account before he cleans you out once he knows that you are aware of his indescretion and plan to leave him.
I am very sorry you have to go through this.

Answer 6

Confront him. You will need to decide if this is something you can get over.

My first husband cheated on me and his pregnant girlfriend showed up on my doorstep. He claimed she was just trying to cause trouble and he never slept with her. I only half believed him and it got really miserable for me. My trust was already gone. I did find out it was HIS baby and I was pregnant with my youngest at the same time. I knew then that our marriage was officially over but I stayed for the kids. Then it got really bad and turned abusive.

When I finally got out, I swore to myself that I would never give another man a second chance ever again. Faithful to the end or it ends.

My second husband also had an affair (several of them that I found out after the separation) but I had no proof at the time, only reports and suspiscions. The trust was gone and so was I.

Answer 7

Have you suspected infidelity? You have to talk to him. He probably was, or is cheating. The woman that called you is probably exposing the affair because he may have tried to break things off with her. Or maybe SHE found out that he's been cheating on BOTH of you...with someone else ! BTW, the suggestions of meeting up with the caller could be dangerous. You hear about "love triangle" tragedies, all the time. Good Luck !

Answer 8

You need to hear both sides of the story. Before you confront your husband, find out more of this woman (if possible). Don't want your husband to turn back the table on you, accusing you of not trusting him. Once you found out more about this woman, choose the right time to confront your hubby. When you're mentally ready, that's the right time. Coz, we don't know how truth this matter is.

Answer 9

If i were you i would meet with the women and get everything layed out correctly....get proof from her....pics/ video/ ticket stubs/ dinner receipts/have her explain what your bedroom looks like or house/ or whatever she can to prove to you she isnt making this up!...b/c there are women out there who fall for or crush on a man and want him so they do and say anything to break a marraige apart so they can get their shot at it!!! After you talk to this women, you need to confront your husband with whatever you have after talking to the lady. ((remember to not go against the woman, be open and listen/dont get angry,,,,she may be somewhat guilty b/c maybe he told her about you,,,but maybe he just told her and she was mad so is just now confronting you....your husband is the one who said those vows of no infidelity/not her!!)) If you get enough proof to nail him than , make him aware of the fact that you know he is a pig and now a SINGLE PIG!!! PACK YOU $HIT AND GO!!!!

Answer 10

Confront your husband and tell him about the phone call you will be able to judge the situation based mirely on his reaction. I'm hope you got her name and phone number as proof. I'm sorry to hear about him cheating on you.

Sounds like you need to just move on though because 2 years is not just an affair its a relationship.