I don't know what to do to stop it happening again. I wasn't on for it but after a while I gave in and kissed so as not to make a scene and embarrass her. I need the other student's support and it could [almost certainly] make things harder and turn the girl aganst me if I turned her down flat. I don't need the other students ostracising me...... I did say no [gently but consistently] when she slipped the hand but how does one avoid this happening again?...... It's only once but she said that she's felt this way for a long time and if you could have felt the pent up need in her then you'd know that she's serious. Drunk, but serious.
2007-09-18 03:31:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about I take her aside and say, 'we just can't do that again'? If she does it after that then I'l just have to run.
2007-09-18 03:36:06 · update #1
Mindy, I know whaqt you're saying but you have to understand that she kissed me before i really even knew what was going on. But yea, you're right. It just wasn't that easy is all.
2007-09-18 03:50:58 · update #2
Yea, happy, but if I encuer her wrath then she's not going to say it happened that way is she?.... Best to not rock the boat; but rather to be discreet.
2007-09-18 03:57:44 · update #3
Happy, what's the last allegation that you seen on TV, about a man, that you didn't believe or think that there might have been some truth in?
2007-09-18 03:59:26 · update #4
This is really bizarre, because if you tell her no, and she persists, it is SHE who is making a scene, not you. And what do you mean you don't need the other students ostracising you? Are you telling us that your fellow students support women who force themselves onto married men? It seems to me that by kissing this girl, despite being married, you have most likely LOST some respect with your fellow students. Grow a backbone and don't let it happen again!
2007-09-18 03:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I feel real sorry for your wife. She thought she was marring a man, but what she got is a lying wimp. How are you being a ''man'' going to let a drunk woman push you to do something you ''say'' you really didn't want to do. Where is your morals. If you was going to lie, you could and should have thought of something better than this weak lie. You know you wanted to kiss her too. The sad part about is... you reading more into the heat of the kiss from a "drunk" and talking about running if she does it again. I think the drunk woman have more balls than you've got. Maybe your wife should check her out.
2007-09-18 13:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't "give in and kiss" someone so as not to embarrass them. She should be embarrassed for trying to kiss a married man. Quit trying to place the blame on someone else; you were a willing participant in what happened. If you don't want it to happen again, don't do it. And if you're worried that you can't stop it from happening (which is ridiculous by the way), then you shouldn't even be around her.
2007-09-18 10:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have let yourself be in that situation in the first place! However, you have made this a bad situation for yourself because if you do reject her now she may turn you into the school for sexual harassment you need to tell your wife and the school before this backfires on you big time!
2007-09-18 10:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by blickyjunk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't come across as a strong man. A man who disrespects his wife is what I would say. There is no way on earth that you should allow a woman would kiss you, and you knowingly that she wanted to, and you accepted it.
You are worried about other people and it is obvious that you put other people in front of your wife. She is or is supposed to be NUMBER ONE in your life. To hell with other people and their wants. You have an obligation to fulfill towards your WIFE.
This seems as a sad excuse for you doing what you did. I hope your wife dumps your sorry ***!
2007-09-18 10:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
How sad that your love for your wife and your morals aren't strong enough to keep a drunk girl from kissing you. Maybe it's time you step back and put your brain back in your head. You'll lose your wife and end up with a drunken tramp, if you don't.
2007-09-18 10:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh...and you just couldn't say no right? Why didn't you just tell you are happily married and want to stay that way? If you REALLY don't want to be kissed by some other girl you will put a stop to it NOW....and so what if she is embarrassed or she turns against you....BIG FREAKING DEAL!
2007-09-18 10:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her when both of you are sobar privately and let her know that can't happen again that you are happily married and that you two could be friends but ONLY friends. If she doesn't go for it then I would avoid her as much as possible because that could cause problems in your marriage later on.
2007-09-18 10:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You gave in so as not to embarass her? You need to reask the question again. Use different combinations of words, and reread your own questions as if you were some stranger.
2007-09-18 10:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just go with the flow and enjoy it. Then hanker up and be
prepared to duck and cover when the consequences roll
in. No tasty deed goes unpunished.
2007-09-18 10:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋