It been 2 weeks sense my wife and I have had sex. last weekend was my birthday. Sex has been 3 time a weeks and she seemed interested but i have the higher sex drive. She said she not interested in sex at all. Nothing. I asked her if it was me or if she doesn't desire me anymore or doesn't love me. she says she doesn't bust does not have the interest for sex. SHe said she she has been trying but she cant. She promised me for my birthday she would and she always pushed me me away when i was in the mood. It wasn't rushed either we went out had a romantic time everyday all weekend and nothing. I don't know what to do. But sex has been less but not it has stopped. I feel hurt and lost that my wife doest want me. She said she does nothing in terms of sex. She has to go to the doctor for new birth pill. I dont killed her sex drive but she been on then for 2 years. we been married for 6 months. She been reluctant set an appointment.Additional Details
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she is 21 and im 22. have n kids and she doesnt work.
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I haven't really been pushing her. she said birthday weekend we would make love have romantic time. I took her dinner then went dancing gosh we had really good time. when we got home and i close she would push me away then she told she wasnt interested in sex anymore
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she was the the one who broke my virginity. When we were engaged and first married we had sex 3 times a day. She want try all the positions. we talk abou how old we be still make love. All that is gone. I just feel lost how she opened me up now she is closed.
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Well I tired talking to her and she got very angry on the phone. When i got home she would not talk to me. SO i took her a message place for hour and half and really cheered her up and took her to dinner. I was really tired when i got home. So i went to bed and she woke me up was sitting on me naked and started making out with me and rubbing her self on me. When i started she said no and laid next with her back to me. I tired talking to her again she told me she bored with her life and need something to do. But she says she wont go out with out me, has not tried to work or making friends. Then she started to cry and said everything ok and she say go away to me she smashed her pillow on her face trying to suffocate her self and I stopped her and she said she didnt love me and we both cried and finally she said she wasnt good enough for me which i told her she is and that i love her. Now she does says she does love me. Last night we talked simple talk
2007-09-18 03:21:00 · 20 answers · asked by Nordic god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This morning she was very tired. but i told her I loved her many times and held as she slept.
2007-09-18 03:22:54 · update #1
DO you think she really meant it when she didint love me
2007-09-18 03:29:59 · update #2
I love her soo much really i love her past the sex I want her to happy. I never loved a women more then this.
2007-09-18 03:42:20 · update #3
Is there anyone I can talk to this soo hard on me
2007-09-18 04:16:30 · update #4
You married her, that's what happened!
2007-09-18 05:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. There could be some thing that you can change, the others are up to her. 1. You mentioned BC, when I was on the pill I didn't have much of a sex drive. See if she can switch to a lower hormone dosage. BTW when I got off BC I was wanting it more than my husband at times. I noticed that the week b4 my period and the week after I don't want sex (which is 2 weeks). Every woman is different, but hormones will play a big role in sex drive. 2. Try something new. Some men would be surprised how many women actually like wantching porn, to an extent. I am not sure how conservative you are, but get her and her girlfriends to throw a sex toy party. She doesn't necessarily have to buy any "toys" but it might spark her interest in sex in general. You could also try giving her back rubs, foot massages, taking showers together, send her sweet messages etc. Depending on what kind of woman she is, she might like the sweet stuff. 3. Back to square one: you may have to go back to dating her. I mean, take her on dates, and go back to that wonderful feeling of finding someone you really really like when everything is new. Remember how you got her to be intimate the first time. 4. The last thing: being married is a totally new world. Give her time. Just so you know 2 weeks is not that long at all. It may feel like it for you, but the worse thing you can do is make her feel like that is your only interst. Good Luck
2016-05-17 13:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That don't sound right. Im very sorry to say. You are still newlyweds and should be having sex like rabbits. My husband and I have been married 14 months and its almost an everynight thing. I am also on birth control and yeah it can lower your sex drive but not like that. Something is up and you two really need to sit down and talk about it. For heaven sakes yall are married and you are suppose to be able to talk about anything and yes sex can be an uncomfortable topic to talk about but it sounds like your marriage is on the line. Talk to her and find out what is going on. Make her answer you dont let her get away with the I dont know answers or the simple its me not you crap. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!
2007-09-18 03:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by creativenut2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of two things. She don't have friends nor a job so she's bored. It makes her depressed that she has to sit home all day and do nothing, which is making her sex drive decrease. Second I think she needs to talk to someone about the birth control pills she's on. I was on the depo and it made me so depressed. The birth control pills might be making her loose interest in everyday life. If you want to save your marriage you guys really need to seek counseling. I know you really love her it sounds like and I think she loves you it just sounds like there's something she's lacking in her life that's making her feel that way.
2007-09-18 03:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is suffering from depression. You need to tell her that you are making an appointment for her to see her doctor, then go with her. You sound like a very loving, attentive husband. I'm sorry you are going through this. Hopefully the doctor will be able to prescribe medication that can help with her depression, and will probably suggest counseling as well. There is a bigger issue going on here than just lack of sex drive. Best of luck to you. :)
2007-09-18 03:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is in depression she should see a psychiatrist and take some professional help. Depressed people do not want to do anything and the feeling of lack of happiness and life joy is part of this condition. Besides sometimes hormonal changes may cause the decrease in sexual activity so she should talk to her doctor and make sure if everything is OK with her physically.
You should continue to give your support to her. It seems you did everything you could do to turn things back to normal. So talking to doctors and seek professional help seems important in this case. I think you should keep your patience.
Good luck
2007-09-18 03:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's got a lot of thinking in her mind... i think ,but most of all i think it's her age as you told us she's 21,only 21 ,so she's not enough to get married,but she did it and a girl of that age... they think these kind of things very hard... so generally i think it's may be stress,and also you worte that she doesn't work or haven't any friends,so maybe that's also why she became upset all the time,friends are not important mor than work 'cause when she start working she'll find friends around her working place...you know what i mean,so tell her it's allright that you two are married tell her if you guys work you'll grow... make her work man!!!
2007-09-18 03:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by BIGY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i would end the relationship as amicably as possible... especially at that age, you two should be having sex quite a bit especially since there are no kids... and i have to agree w/ some of the answerers that she may potentially eithe be in love / someone else or she has more issues than you know... do seek counseling if you think it's worth saving the marriage, though...
2007-09-18 03:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel you are not good enough but she feels the same way becuase you pressure her to have sex. Dont make plans and it will come. Let her know how you feel she isnt interested and you feel she doesnt enjoy it maybe she will open up and talk to you. She kinda sounds bipolor, but maybe just confused, and maybe wishes sometimes she was able to test other water. Who knows and you wont ever know unless you talk, listen, and understand.
2007-09-18 04:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously depressed, and that will kill your sex life. It has probably nothing to do with her not wanting you. Her depression has her mind elsewhere. Sitting at home all day definitely does not make things any easier. Sounds like she needs a goal in life.
2007-09-18 03:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by SamVS77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed. Talk to her about getting a hobby or a part time job. She needs something to do.
2007-09-18 03:32:24 · answer #11 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋