Friendship Help?

Question

I need help desperately.I'm 17,and I go to college;and I have a friend who used to be nice and friendly to me but he's changed... He's now ignoring me and whenever I try to help him he just dismisses and critisizes me.Please help!

By the way if you give me an answer that's negative,rude,crude or just crude then I'll block you...

Because I need a positive and good solution to solve this crisis....

No offense meant to anyone.But I'm very sensitive about what people say to me....

I've read the answers so far and I think they're rather good.Keep them coming...

And allforone that isn't really the most sensible thing to do.I'm tempted to but I wouldn't because I'm mature.

Answer 1

perhaps your friend has some anxieties/worries and problem in life?

perhaps something big is troubling him that he can't tell you honestly/frankly what it is about so he keeps it by himself and he becomes cranky/dismissing/critical in his behavior

let go and give him space.

then when you'll be away in college... you can always contact him thru phone, email or text message and perhaps by due time he has subsided on this kind of behavior

college: would welcome you.... new acquaintances... new friends

best to remember this: true friendship lasts when based on sincerity, openess, acceptance and constant communication

- giving one his proper space is good for growth and reflection and growth.

good luck.

Answer 2

Ok,

When friendships start going wrong they are normally for the most fragile of reasons. Somebody has said something derogatory and therefore they are taking a step back. Trying to suss out what is wrong will not be answered by taking a step further forward and asking straight away.

Wait and be patient see how far your friend distances themself from you over a week say then ask what is wrong. Observe during that week from a distance and only when you can who your friend talks to, don't make an effort though otherwise this could be construed as spying.

Could it be that something has gone wrong with your friends studies and he is under stress to do better. Maybe there is a problem at home and he is not sure how to cope with the new situation. There could be all sorts of reason why your young friend feels the need to take some time for himself. I suppose its all part of growing up to.

Divorce, bereavement, moving house all have a knock on effect on youth as does the change in the home economic environment if one parent or both become unemployed.

Another big issue for boys is girlfriends, having them or not. I suppose you could say its part of a young mans move forward to the next stage of life the experiences with girls. Peer group pressure can be daunting if someone feels vulnerable and maybe feels its time to take that step back just to take that little bit time for thought.

Friendships are important, the ones you make now should last a lifetime, so don't rush your life by - take it easy let it unfold around you as it should.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Sometimes, life can be painful that way and people can hurt you, and people that you never expected to, can hurt you !
Everyone has a choice, and i know one thing and that is that if i had friends and i had to be the one to chase them all the time, then i wouldn't want that. I want them to be there because they really want to be there and the same thing with a girlfriend or a wife. I wouldn't want to force someone, or try to force someone to be my friend, and yes, relationships require hard work and sometimes they cause you discomfort when you need to deal with some stuff, but it got to be a two way street, give and take.
Bottom line is, you can approach him once, twice, three times, but eventually if that's what he wants, then you need to let him go and move on for yourself, and continue with your own life !

Answer 4

You're at an age when people change and hormones are raging and everyone's having teenage angst and problems and trying to find their identity. Try and talk to your friend, make it clear if he needs to talk you'll be there, but if he dismisses you, accept that it's his problem to deal with and leave him alone and make some new friends. If he comes back and apologises then fine, if not, he wasnt worth it in the first place.

Answer 5

If you're good enough friends you won't have a problem in confronting your friend about this. Just ask him why he's treating you differently. I'm sure that wahtver comes of the conversation will only a be a good learning experience, and your relationship will probably get better.

Answer 6

sweetie this guy is not a friend get rid of him
you are at an age where you need positive things in your life get rid of him and tell him to cop himself on and act like the young adult he is not to act like a 5 year old.

You have more important things to be concerned with, school, perhaps further education a future and im sure other things. Dont waste your time on him

Answer 7

I know there has to be a reason he is doing this toward you. do you remember the last argument you had whit him? or what was last said to him?

if you do not remember. just come out, and ask him what he is angry about.? I am sure he should let you know, something.

if you do not get a chance to talk to him, call him, then ask him what is going on. but I see it, as if he was your friend before, he should know you enough to tell you what is bothering him.

Remember a good friend will not just turn against you with out a reason.

Good Luck

Answer 8

honestly you don't need a friend like that that ignores you that is not a friend. there are so many out there that you can meet and there are so many nice people i am sure if you try and find soem peopel to hang with you will see and then be happy again. its easy just go up intrduce yourself. and you can start talking and make friends i am sure you will have easy time and forget the older person (friend) whose ignoring you now it your turn to shine. take care.

Answer 9

First, just have chat with him..talking with him..you'll know by then what bothers him. Dont try to help in any way since u said hes ignoring you. So the best thing is talk..open up ur mind to many interesting things you think your friend will listen to you.
You know his moods..so go for it.
when his mood calms down and ready to open up then ask why hes ignoring you?

Answer 10

He clearly doesn't want your help so just back off, he might very well feel that it is time to shake off the old and get on with the new and sadly maybe you don't fit in with his plan anymore.

Try giving him some space and see what happens in the mean time get yourself some new college buddies.

Good luck.