How do you teach manners to the younger Filipino generation?

Question

The first seat beside the doors of the MRT or LRT have signs that the seat is for the "disabled, pregnant, moms with kids or older folk". I use these trains to travel around Metro Manila. I am disabled, use a cane and prosthetic leg, but wear walking shorts or a skirt so people can spot my disability. About 80% of the time, no one gives me a seat unless I ask for it (I do ask nicely) - some of those asked sigh heavily or act like they need a medal pinned to them plus a brass band parade for granting a huge favor.

Those who do give me a seat, right away, without my asking are older men or ladies, not the younger generation. How does one help the younger generation of Pinoys remember their manners when we desperatly need to sit in trains?

Answer 1

You have to remember that in today's society everyone is taught that everyone is equal - in school's we are taught that just because someone has a disability doesn't mean they deserve special treatment. If you ask someone to move and they do then be happy that they are moving instead of telling you no - people will always be disrespectful because sadly it is human nature. Also they probably (please forgive me) think that you want a pity show since you make it a point to make it known that you are disabled.

Answer 2

It's a shame, because manners lubricate life and make it much more easy to navigate. I'm sorry about the current generation's lack of class and consideration for others-it doesn't bode well for the future. I remember being sent from the dinner table for poor manners as a child growing up in the 50's and 60's-I kid you not. The worst offenses are not saying "thank you" and not holding the door for the person behind you. Sadly, manners appear to be seen as a form of weakness or effeminacy in homophobic America. People who make noise when they eat are egocentric: they're like little children, oblivious to the world around them, as they eat something they really enjoy. In other words, they're so wrapped up in themselves that it never occurs to them that they're gross. Another today's generation is missing is a sense of "boundaries." I suppose it comes from watching the nonsense on TV where neighbors blithely barge into houses without prior notice. Very uncool. Rectify this problem by setting an example. I don't mean going the entire "Miss Manners" route and sending a sympathy card every time someone farts, but learn to be considerate of others and by all means teach it to your children. America is going to become even more "dog-eat-dog" as this recession deepens. I can only imagine what that's going to bring.

Answer 3

Teaching good manners starts at home and in school. Thus, both parents and teachers play significant roles in imparting good manners to the Filipino youth. As a parent to 2 children under 5 years old, I realized it won't be good enough to just simply talk to them like they're over 7 years old or grown-ups. I believe that it is but appropriate to beat 'em up "with care" to let them realize their mistakes or bad manners. Beating "with care," as emphasized, is what I can consider as a more logical way of disciplining your kids. While kids would then realize about their mistakes, they will eventually adapt good manners without you actually telling them.

Answer 4

How very sad, that you need to ASK for a seat when you obviously need one. Teaching manners to any generation is done the same way. Perhaps, saying, "i cannot stand for this long ride' to a younger person would help the person to understand your plight. I am truly sorry this is your situation. I have M.S. and I know that standing can bring on total vertigo for me.

Answer 5

The young are like that all over. Always have been. Probably always will be. Just do what you are doing and smile.

Answer 6

During our time, it was usually with a rattan stick or a belt : P

Answer 7

Maybe they feel that you want to be treated like a normal person. Otherwise you could beat them. :)