2007-09-18 03:02:10 · 28 answers · asked by DAY-DAY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't that is his decision and its obvious he chose his family. Let it go. If its meant to be it will be. If you really want to be patient and see if they break up again then that is really your only option but it can take a very long time if that ever even happens.
I lost a boyfriend to the mother of his children 4 years ago, they finally broke up for good earlier this year and we are now back together and very happy. I never thought we would get back together, it was by chance that we were both single at the time and apparently still have very strong feelings for each other.
2007-09-18 03:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Will never happened his with her for a reason and believe as a fellow baby mother I can almost be certain that the reason it's not the KIDS. He wants to be with her even if it's for now. and If I were you I would run from that because it never ends up how you want it too. He's home where he belongs. Sorry to tell you the truth but I'm sure that you can move from that and find someone else to start a life with.
2007-09-18 10:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think you can. If he went back to her it is because he still cares for her or he simply feels he needs to do it for the kids and either way that is a bad situation. You need to figure out why he is back with her first. If he has feelings for her there is nothing you can do to change that. If he is with her ONLY for the children. It will take time to make him realize that is not a good situation for the kids because kids are smart and thy will be able to see right through that. Talk to him, lay it all out on the table and see where it goes.
Good luck. I know it is not what you wanted to hear but it is true.
2007-09-18 10:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go so they can be a family. Why should you take him away from his kids? Kids love to have both of there parents together, would you really want to hurt them just so you can be happy? You can't make someone love you so if by chance you did trick him back it wouldn't work for long and he would probably leave again anyway. I know it hurts but you have to move on.
2007-09-18 10:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be interest in you on his end. If he is not showing it then there is no hope. I would say that it would be easier for you to just forget him. The child factor can have a strong hold on the relationship. You'd be better off moving on- and even to a person who doesn't have previous attachments. Your seeing him as the only person that can make you happy and that is just a trap. Get out of it and live better mental health.
2007-09-18 10:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let nature take it's course. If that's where he wants to be, then that's where he should be. If his relationship with the mother of his children doesn't work out then go for it. Otherwise cut your losses and move on to someone. Don't try to break up his family. You have to realize in situations like these it's not just about you and what you want, or about him and what he wants. There are children to consider.
2007-09-18 10:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by nievmi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This have to be one of these question, wanting to see how many people will curse you out. Personally I'm not going to waist that much energy on you today. I think this will be answered by Karma. What goes around, comes around.
2007-09-18 10:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ur the kinda people that we call a " homewrecker" . honey, this man used u, why go back? look u need to remember this, people will treat u, like u let them treat u. have some self respect and look for a man that wont bring heartbreaks, and will love and cherish you.
luck to ya!!!
2007-09-18 10:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to break up a family? There are other men out there. Find one and leave these people alone!
2007-09-18 10:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
light 3 candles, spin around 10 times, hop on 1 leg 5 times while eating a drumstick....
2007-09-18 10:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋