after a argument my boyfriend hit me and was taken to jail, i went to court and got a tpo, but i dont want to continue with all this, so i wonder if i dont show up to the next court date, will they drop the charges and will the tpo be cancel or what can i do?there was no serious injury and i really want to work things out.
2007-09-18 02:57:33 · 6 answers · asked by leydi t 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Gee there is a girl asking for more abuse. I know he wont do it again..He only hits me because he loves me.
Run away little one. He will hit you again. Maybe worse maybe hospital. maybe dead.....
Get some professional help for your issues.
2007-09-18 03:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the laws where you live. In some places, you cannot drop the charges. The state is the one pressing charges, not you.
The TPO will eventually expire (hence the term temporary). However, the TPO is just in place to give you more legal standing in the event of a repeat. Are you going to report him to the police for breaking the TPO?
Your acceptance of the abuse does not make it legal. He still broke the law and will have to face the consequences, regardless of how you feel about it.
2007-09-18 03:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by gefyonx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please excuse the harshness of what I am about to say, but that is thesilliest thing I have ever heard.
Are you intending to change him, he was certainly willing to hit you before and he will certainly be willing to hit you again. It is just a matter of time. Generally a TPO will not be lifted as to not waste the courts time, as it is just only a matter of time before you are back before a judge filing more assault charges.
2007-09-18 07:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to someone who has been there. These men do not change. If he is in jail because of domestic violence against you, let him stay there and stay away. You will be putting your child in danger and that is unfair to both of you; in fact, you may jeopardize your custody of that child by having anything to do with this man. The outcome of all of this may be more than you are thinking about. A man who abuses does not change his tune and may be worse since he is already in jail because you put him there (and that is exactly where he belongs!) Do not put your life and your child's life in danger. Think of your child and not of anything else. You are putting yourself in grave danger. You are worth more than what you are accepting. No one should be putting there hands on anyone for any reason. Go to a battered women's shelter and get information that can help you make a better decision. Get some counselling before you make a big mistake that may effect you for years to come. Women end up being killed by going back for more abuse. Don't be one of these victims. (Remember OJ??)
2016-05-17 12:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many States are now making an arrest a requirement in domestic situations. The reason, people who want the police to decide arguments and not do anything about abuse. You are a dreamer if you think he will not hit you again. You cannot expect the police to protect you if you do nothing yourself.
2007-09-18 03:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier to just find someone else to smack you around.
2007-09-18 03:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by mike o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋