Do you understand people who would cheat on their spouses?

Question

Would you justify their actions at all?

Answer 1

I truely do not understand people that cheat on the spouses. If you arent happy, talk about it. Communication is such a big key. Do things to be happy again and if you tried all you can then leave. Why be sneaky and lie about things. It drives me crazy to think at one time someone was so in love to marry their spouse, and years later because things are different and someone who is a little more interesting has come along you cheat. Nothing justifies it. Not even alcohol. It sucks that some people only worry about themselves and what makes them happy.

Answer 2

People cheat for a lot of reasons. Some understandable, some not understandable. I would never condone cheating, especially on a spouse because you are supposed to take vows and stick to them come what may. I have cheated on a boyfriend in the past but my relationshiop with my boyfriend was pretty shallow. However, I am now married and obviously I take my marriage and my vows seriously so I would never cheat.

Answer 3

Yes, I do understand them. They are just people who are selfish and want things their way -at any cost. They're are the type of person who refuses to look into the future and only lives for the moment. They are brave, but in the end look like a coward. They honestly can justify their actions to be morally correct- even though they are the only ones that see it that way. They are trash to me. I wont even be friends with a person who does this.

Answer 4

I don't think there is any excuse for cheating. Some of these responses seem to think that "sex" or lack thereof is a good reason to cheat. I don't see it that way...if you aren't happy with someone or aren't attracted to someone...get out! Cheating is the one thing I would NEVER forgive my husband for. People always say you don't know how you would handle a situation until you're faced with it...I don't believe that for a minute. I could and have forgiven just about everything else you could imagine over the years, but there are 2 things that I would not tolerate or forgive and cheating is one of them!

Answer 5

No. If they are not ready to be with one person, they shouldn't get married. When you get married you say vows, they should mean something to you when you say them. Someone who cheats after being married has disrespected everything marriage stands for. There is no justifying their actions. Again the answer is NO.

Answer 6

I agree with Kathy V. Once a cheater is always a cheater. If you're not happy with your marriage or relationship, get out! I was married for 16 years, my husband cheated on me many times so I had enough of him and I kicked him to the curb! I don't understand why people cheats, why get into a relationship if one is not enough for you. Besides, it's not how many you can have, it's HOW YOU CAN KEEP ONE!

Answer 7

After a long marriage where the sex is ancient history and hostilities abound. When you are trying to get your needs met while still keeping the family together for the sake of the kids.

Then, yes. I would justify it.

Theoretically, at least.

BTW, I tried this and my marriage ended anyway.

Answer 8

I understand why they do it but I don't justify their actions. In my opinion you shouldn't get married if you are going to cheat. Marriage to me mean you for ever. People today don't listen to the marriage vows, they just say them.

Answer 9

well, i guess as i have cheated, i have to at least understand how someone can get to that point. when you have talked and talked, and tried and tried to fix sexual differences, there comes a point where you give up. you just get so hopeless and down that you almost cheat out of spite or revenge. in my case i was suffering as i tried living on her terms, and she wouldnt even budge to try and meet me in the middle somewhere.

now to be fair, i should have left, but there are major financial concerns there. you know when you leave, you will be hit with child support, no money for rent and all of those concerns. in my mind i was thinking i would find someone and transition from one to the next. i regret it all and would have done it all differently, but i cannot undo the past now.

Answer 10

I never thought I would say I understand why people cheat, but I do. Some people are just so brought down that they turn to others to feel better about themselves. I can understand it. It's still wrong, but I get it now.