Do you ever threaten your husband to divorce him even if you don't mean it?

Question

I mean when you fight or you are mad at him... do you use this threat as the most powerful weapon? How he reacts?

Answer 1

No! That is a petulant way of getting whatever it is you want. It's the marriage equivalent of the boy who cried wolf.

I don't need weaponry, verbal or otherwise, when my husband and I argue. The crazy mess he says gives me all the material I need! I don't want to hurt him, I just want to prove a point. And even if I did threaten him in that way, it would not phase him one bit. He would know that it was merely a tactic, and I think that would piss him off the most, because he's not one to play that game.

Seriously, I value that man, and our marriage too much to make false threats about ending it. Even in our most intense arguments, there are still rules.

Answer 2

You never use that unless you are serious. That is not even something to joke about. Divorce is a very serious matter and should be taken seriously. If you told me that my response would be then pack your stuff and get out. End of argument.

What people must remember when they are mad is first don't discuss anything until you have had a chance to cool your temper down. Never say something you don't mean...you can't take it back not even with all the I'm sorry I was just mads in the world.

Remeber you must remain adults and not become children again during an argument. Never raise you voice to each other. Always keep the conversation in a calm tone. Never talk till you have cooled off some. If you have to go for a walk first then do. Just don't wait days to discuss it....and never ever threaten divorce unless you absolutely mean it and already have your bags packed.

Answer 3

never -ever- never make a threat that you are not prepared to follow thru with. never give an ultimatium that you are not ready for them to make a choice on. (they might not choose the way you want them to and then you have to follow thru or back down and that is never a good thing) i know someone who used the divorce as a threat several times and finally they were told to do what they wanted so they filed for divorce. now after 17 years together they are divorced and miserable. they did not want it but went thru with it cause they did not want to back down after useing it as a threat to get there way. and now the childern will suffer forever. if there is a problem rather than threating try just being honest.

Answer 4

No, I actually never threaten my husband with divorce. We don't do that to each other.
My ex-husband; however, did that to me all the time during a bad marriage. It was mean and hurtful. I only told him I wanted divorced once, and that's b/c I meant it.

Answer 5

That shouldn't be said unless you mean it otherwise they may really satrt to think that is what you want and the table may turn and you'll get just that. How would you feel if it was thrown up in your face? It is not a powerful weapon becuase sooner or later it may just happen becuase of it being used.

Answer 6

You should never, ever make that comment, whether you're fighting or not. You shouldn't want to make that comment if you love him!

What would you do if he says, OK, so do I and he walked out the door? Could you live without him? Well, that's what you should focus on. Making him happy and solving any problem. You shouldn't be threatening to make him miserable and causing a major problem.

Answer 7

To say the d word is like a knife,it cut so deep and when you say it you kill a part of you marriage every time.Get help if you need to,talk to someone and think about this,if you love him why try to hurt him,build each other up not brake him down,both should show love and you should tell each other every day that you love him/her.Marriage need a lot of work,read your Bible together 1Corinthians 13:4-8

Answer 8

No. that is just an immature way of handling things. You have to get down to the real problem. If you keep threatening that one day he will say "fine" and walk out the door.

Answer 9

NO
If those words come out of my mouth to his face, it is a done deal no going back.
Never have used words or sex against him never will it don't fix anything anyway.
That's why you are suppose to sit down and talk not scream and yell and no name calling it just makes it worse.

Answer 10

My ex used to do that a lot. At one point I told her that the next time she said it, angry or not, we would be doing it. When I said it was time to consider a divorce, we divorced.