we have been married for 19 years and her sex drive has only gotten worse(once every two or three month is to much for her and i am going nuts)
2007-09-18 02:10:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to counseling and maybe she needs to see a doctor to see if hormonal changes are effecting her.
2007-09-18 02:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by shelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is taking some kind of medication (particularly a psychtropic med) there could be some sexual side effects. That's what could be causing it. Otherwise, it could be an instance of post traumatic stress disorder if there was a sex problem in the past. Therefore, counseling could be effective. I've also heard therapists say that the bed is the battlefield of the relationship. Maybe there's another underlying issue that the two of you need to work out. Good luck.
2007-09-18 21:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt look elsewhere.
Have you given it your best shot to add some spice back into it.
I personally have a low drive but am making the effort to change, i find the more you do it the more you want to.
One thing I find off putting is feeling pressure from my hubby so try to be patient for a while ( I am sure you have been) but try to satisy her without sex for a while so that every time you touch her she wont think it is leading to more.
I hope after a while things improve.
Good luck with it
2007-09-18 09:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the same as masturbating. If a couple is not having sex and one of them dont like it thats a big problem. Marriages end because of that. I think that you shoudl talk to her, see a counselor. Maybe find or do things that get her in the mood. Then let her go to sleep all hot and bothered lol so she know how you feel. Nah thats not right but for real, try and talk about it
2007-09-18 09:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go nuts and try and understand where she is coming from. Have her make an appt. with her doctor and go with her to see if she is experienceing hormonal changes. Do what most guys do, take care of that in the shower and love her for who she is. Not what she has.
2007-09-18 09:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by candyapple58 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not suggest to you that you find it elsewhere.
Maybe if you find a way for her to enjoy it more then she would want to have sex.
Personally, I can't get enough... but my husband and I have really great sex.
If I weren't being pleased then I probably wouldn't like it either. Does she get "taken care of" when y'all get it on?
2007-09-18 09:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you need sex and more than once every two or three months! Let her know you are tempted to go elsewhere---see what she says.
2007-09-18 09:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds about time to boot her butt to the curb! If you've already tried the counseling route, and things have not worked out, check out a lawyer or two and get a divorce and move on.
2007-09-18 09:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I would tell her that it has come to this...she needs to make you feel like a man or someone else will!!
She knows what she's doing to you!
Give her a chance to pick up the pace first, but after that...what the heck...as long as she knows about it.
2007-09-18 10:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by MrsC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look elsewhere..find out what the problem is..and find a way in which both of you can enjoy it.
2007-09-18 10:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by san 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋