so it's said that you can't spoil a baby untill after 6 months...?

Question

so what did you do different after 6 month mark?

Answer 1

Nothing. I still cuddled and loved my son just as much, if not more... you just can't give them everything they want. let them cry sometimes... let them figure things out on their own.

Answer 2

Spoiling an infant is impossible. What you can do all along is set poor routine, which causes a child to become clingy and insecure.

Newborns and young infants NEED to be fed on demand, and picked up and held most of the time. However, even a newborn can adjust to a routine of spending a few short minutes in an infant seat near you while you do work around the room. THey can learn how to look around at their environment while you shower or run the vacuum near them.

Its not about spoiling or not spoiling, its about teaching them and encouraging them to be secure in their bodies and environment, and in your ability to protect them.

My son, from just a week old, could sit and watch the room around him, or nap, while I washed dishes or showered or did stuff on the computer. Maybe only 10 minutes or less at a time while awake, but eventually as he grew it was more. By 3 months he could sit for nearly half an hour while I cleaned.

Another good thing to do is to allow other people to hold your baby whenever you can. And dont react to the crying by swooping them up and soothng them. You dont want to teach baby that other people holding them causes you to panic.

Its just common sense things like that, there is no magical age or different things to do all of a sudden.

Answer 3

My mom used to say "nothing wrong with a spoiled child, just don't make a spoiled brat" and now that I am the grandma I tend to agree with her. Love them, love them, love them. Make sure they have the guidance and discipline to become responsible adults and make good decisions, but don't worry too much about spoiling. And I am not talking about buying them everything they want or giving in to every manipulation. Just give them all the love you can and appreciate all the stages they go through. More importantly, listen to them and treat them with the respect that you would any adult. Don't expect them to act like an adult though. My daughter, who was adopted at 9 years old once told me "Mom, you know why I behave better for you? Becasue you just accept me for who I am." And she has grown into a beautiful, well adjusted young woman.

Answer 4

I guess that is the time to try and teach them good habits, like sleeping by themselves, and eating with the family as much as possible. I have a son who is now 9mo and it is all a learning curve for all of us, we have already got a daughter who is 3 and both the kids are so different that you have to be as flexible as possible. Try to use and teach good manners and be happy, happy stress free people tend to raise happy stress free kids.
Good luck I'm sure you will muddle through we all do.

Answer 5

Nothing really. With all 3 of my kids, I tended to let them cry just a little bit longer before I went to them, just to see if they would stop crying and/or find something else to entertain themselves. I still hugged them, kissed them, and carried them all the time. They're only little once and they will only let you do that for so long.