Would you think your husband is cheating if the neigbor is checking him out every time they see each other outside and they both leave at the same time for work in the morning? I think this ugly neigbor has a think for my man and i don't like it when he be trying to look too. What do you think is gone on? What will be the signs if you are cheating with the neigbor? We purpose to get married in 10 days from now, but I don't want to married him if he and the neigbor have something together. What's your best answer?
2007-09-18 00:46:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has given you no reason to mistrust him, other than this other lady checking him out, why are you so upset? You should be flattered that other women find your man attractive and that he's YOUR man. Don't be jealous, be greatful. If he smiles at her or waves, it is prolly just because he is flattered by the attention. Who doesn't like to be admired?
Love your man and give him the attention and affection he deserves. Men are simple (it's so hard for women to realize this because we are so complicated....even me and I'm writing this). Pamper, love, and feed a good man and all will be well.
Instead of putting effort into being jealous of your future husband, spend your time thinking of how you can make him the happiest man in the world to be marrying you. Good luck!!!
2007-09-18 01:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Gretta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married in 10 days...hmmm, maybe he's just blowing off some steam just by LOOKING ...you know...not doing anything at all! It's not his fault the neighbour is watching him like that. Mayeb all he feels is flattered that girls still check him out, now that he'll be a married man:) Self esteem.
Plus, what if the girl neighbour is acting this way just because she's unsecure about herself and has to hit on other women's men...who knows what her issue is. Maybe she is unconsciously envious of you two?
If you haven't got proof of actual cheating, I don't know...
Then again, can't u guys move?
You could always go down and have a talk with the neighbor..tell her how you feel (but no violence or aggression, just let her know you're aware of her!).
Best wishes.
2007-09-18 00:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't mean that he's cheating, he may just be checking her out. After all U mentioned she always looks at him, he might know she has a thing for him and he's flattered. If you are going to get married there has to be trust. You don't want to marry someone and still ask yourself, could he be cheating. Go over to your neighbors house, drink some coffee, and tell her how you feel, maybe she's going to apologize or maybe not, either way, clear the water before U dive In :) Good luck and Congrats!
2007-09-18 00:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, just because my neighbor is looking at my partner does not mean they are having an affair. & just because they both leave at the same time, doesn't mean they are going down the road to have sex. You have some serious trust issues that need to be discussed before you marry this person. You need to sit down with your fiance and perhaps include a 3rd party such as a minister and get your issues out in the open. Otherwise you are dooming your marriage to failure.
2007-09-18 01:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by anna s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All your evidence is 1) they leave for work at the same time, and 2) he looks at her. Given this, I definitely think you should NOT get married. If this is all it takes in order for you to suspect him of cheating then there are going to be so many confrontations and accusations that your marriage would be miserable. It would be constant arguing, one argument after another. The suspicion and paranoia would be oppressive. You either need to find a man you can trust, or else get into therapy to figure out why you are incapable of trust.
2007-09-18 01:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn`t work shifts, and it`s the same time every day, follow him out to his car and when she`s looking, give him a nice big kiss..
Your husband is not cheating, you need to relax and not be too jealous. Just let the neighbour see you interacting with him.If that doesn`t work, try flirting with her husband in front of her.
2007-09-18 01:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what my dear,stop thinking the worst of your man-instead talk to him about how you feel about his relationship with your neighbour and you will be suprised how communication helps in a relationship.Also trust your man or-else nothing good will ever come out of your marriage[that is if you end up getting married]....
2007-09-18 01:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i seriously thought this about my neighbor at one point too, so I befriended her. We are great friends now, and I realize I was just being silly by thinking that she was checking out my husband. Now I realize that she was just curious about who the new people were. Remember, neighbors are curious people. She's probably checking you out too, just out of curiosity, but you are only noticing her looking at your fiance.
Don't freak, you have no reason to believe your man is involved with the neighbor.
2007-09-18 01:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about it, especially if your neighbor is ugly, come on, do you think he would cheat. I would confront him though and see what his reaction is. He might be like she is ugly, but she wouldnt be checking him out if he didnt respond how she wanted him too. Maybe he is just flattered, not right, but it happens men get all insecure before marriage.
2007-09-18 01:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's checking him out and it's his fault?
THey LEAVE FOR WORK at the SAME TIME! OMG!!!!!
YOu have someserious trust issues you better take a good look at before you marry anyone.
2007-09-18 00:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by wizjp 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋