Passing away?

Question

I lost my Grandma about 6 months ago, and I am still taking it really hard. I've cried almost everyday since then. I'm only 14, and I saw her everyday for 6 years. We were so close. Now, my dad's best friend is dying. He has brain cancer, and I've known him my whole life. He used to take me fishing... my parents have known him for more than 20 years, so they are really taking this badly. How can I move on from my Grandmother's passing, and how can I prepare myself for my dad's friend's death, so I don't have to go through that pain again? Thanks.

Answer 1

Sadly you are starting to experience what the rest of us (older people) have long ago discovered - life is short, people come and go, and more and more people are taken from our circle of family and friends as time goes on.
My grandmother died 20years ago - I still think about her an awful lot.
Sorry - theres nothing I can really say to jolly you up here - its an inevitable thing.
It doesnt get easier.

Answer 2

Time is the only thing that will allow you to move on with your grandma's death. It really is true that time heals all wounds. Beleieve it or not, your mind is preparing itself already of your dad's friend's death bc you already know that he will die from it. You will still feel the pain when he is gone. But remember the good times, not the cancer and him dieing. Know that he is in the most wonderful place with your grandmother. They will no longer have any worries or anything negative in their lives. They will be truely happy now.....more so than anyone of us could ever imagine. And remember, the time will come when you will be able to be with them again in Heaven. Do not feel the pain from them not being with you, be happy for them that they are happier than they ever have been. You are in my prayers hun.

Answer 3

That's a difficult one. I've had dozens of relatives and friends die throughout my lifetime, many of them dying during the same span of time. It was extremely hard on me until I began to realize that one tends to deal with death the same way that they deal with life. If you realize that life has it's good and bad moments, long and short, and happy and sad, and simply accept what you have gotten from it throughout, then it is easier to accept the passing of it.

I'm not certain if I am saying that right or not. People die, that is unfortunately what happens, but you get through it by realizing that they also lived. They had a life, whatever there was of it, and that is good in itself. And if it touched upon yours in some way, then you thank them for what gotten from it and make the most of it for the life you have.

I sincerely wish I could make my point better than it sounds to me here.

Answer 4

Sorry, but there's no instant remedy for this pain. Everyone says that time is the best healer, and this is true. Getting drunk or similar is a waste of time, and the next day you still have the pain AND a hangover to cope with. Keep yourself as busy as possible also helps. The pain you will possibly endure over your parent's friend when he dies should not be as great as when your grandma died, but a lot depends onhow sensitive you are.

Answer 5

Alot of your pain is within yourself. You have to just become stronger, know that everything your grandmother stood for is alive and inside you waiting for you to be the same to the next special someone that comes along in your life. We cannot keep what our loved ones have taught us, we are supposed to pass it on to others so we can see how it is to love and be loved.
My grandfather was a blind piano tuner. He worked hard for what he had and til the few weeks before he died. He was tired. He died running to tuning jobs. Always looking for ways to support his family. He woke in the morning and did several piano's a day then came home about 3 and out in his work shop referbished at least one piano or bottomed chairs with cane. I can remember that of him all my young life. But he always took the time to answer my questions or play some games or just sit with me and watch a Braves game at night. It's hard to beat a man like that, but his love still beats inside my heart. He's been passed for 12 or so years now. Don't forget, let her love out...

Answer 6

God bless your grandmother and your father's best friend. They were both very kind souls.

I know that this must be very hard on you since you're still young and fresh in the world. Allow yourself to grieve, don't hold it in. You're probably feeling guilty about having fun or being happy without Grandma there, like you're enjoying being without her. It's alright, do what you feel, it doesn't matter. She's very happy to watch you from Heaven. Think of all of the times you've had with her, how kind she was. When you think of how ready she was to die, to rest and give herself to the Lord, you might feel a bit of relief, that she died peacefully and happily. Take this as slowly as you want, it's your choice and just for you.

If your parents are just as upset and depressed, don't be afraid to go to them. If they cry, cry with them. It'll improve your relationship, making each of you realize that the entire family cares, loves, wants. You should visit your father's best friend as much as you can, prepare, be ready. He will be happy to see you, since he knows his own fate. Those two are lucky they were able to have time to prepare. Be happy whenever you see him, think positively, and always pray whenever you feel alone and horrible.

Remember, it's not your fault any of this happened. You are probably a wonderful person, someone who would love their grandmother and friend enough to remember them. Take it easy, go slowly, and don't be afraid to express yourself. In time you will be happy for your friends. God bless.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, this is a part of life that all human beings have to deal with. Just look at it this way. They are leaving to go to a better place. We don't always know why they had to leave this earth, but we do know that all of us have to do it at some time or another. You may want to write in a journal, how you are feeling, to release some of the sorrow. In time you will still remember them, not as dying, but how they influenced your life while they were living.

Answer 8

When I found this out I was definitely shocked. There are way to many people dying in the wrestling business. It is very sad and I don't understand how so many talented young people are dying so early. Lance will definitely be missed. RIP Lance Cade

Answer 9

I feel you, young lady. My mother's dad passed away a few years ago, when I thought about him I also can't help crying. I remember he held my hands, looking me into my eyes with so much love and hope, and sadness. As if he wanted to give me something but he can't, as if he wanted to love me hug me or whatever things he didn't do with me during his life, he wanted to make up.

I can't say death is a natural thing everyone must face, because it's just so cruel. But trust me, you will be fine. It doesn't matter. (you know it matters a lot)

Answer 10

Someone else passing is always a difficult time. And no matter how old you are and how many times you deal with it, it never gets any easier to handle. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to cherish the moments that you still have with them and hold onto the memories of the good times you shared. you have my condolences