What should I do to fight off these bad feelings I get about myself? My husband keeps putting me down calling me stupid & retarded etc, my mom isn't very nice to me & also likes to put me down etc how can I ignore what people say so that it doesn't hurt me anymore?
2007-09-17 23:27:28 · 11 answers · asked by Death Girl Am 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I don't love my husband I would leave if I had money & if I had somewhere for me & my children to go.
2007-09-18 01:29:45 · update #1
LOL Andrew your a trip.
2007-09-19 23:35:26 · update #2
You need to get away from the people who say these things to you.
Emotional abuse IS abuse, and sometimes it does more damage than blows.
Find people who love you and respect you for the person that you are. Let them love you until you learn to love yourself.
The fact that you asked this question is a sign of health and strength. You know the messages that they are sending you are wrong, and you want to be happy and healthy. That is a very good sign.
2007-09-17 23:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand your feeling, hurt is a horrble feeling, such of miserable, no one deserve it.
These people are dear to you, they supposed love you, with their compassion, motivation and support, instead of making you so miserable, their criticism, unkind words, sometimes you want to leave them, but you not able to because you dearly love them. Just like you in some sorts of cross road, can't live with them and can't live without them. But how you going to get out of the bad feeling, bad thoughts that emotionally terrors you a parts, that they invaded your boundary.
My suggestions the only way out of this bad situation is to leave, get away from them regardless how much you love them. It's not going to do you no good if you try to verbally fight back, all you do is just to making things worse, and the longer you stay putting up with the abusive from them the more they will take over your boundary, that would hurt worse, not easy to leave people close to your heart. At first will be hard, like everything else it takes times. Times is the best medicine to heal, and will gives the people you love plenty rooms and spaces to do their own things, times also wiser all party involved. And you always a lovable person that you know, don't matter where you at. Wish you all the luck!
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2007-09-18 08:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband has some issues, a person calling his own wife a retard sounds more like him being a retard himself.
You have to talk it out with him. I mean, he's gonna stay with you for life, how long do you think you can ignore him? He's not just any "people", he's your husband and you have to get him to stop doing that.
2007-09-18 06:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insult them back. Tell him as a man he's no good for nothing. As for your mom tell her the same. That as a mother she is the example of what a mother shouldn't be. Also the husband you can divorce. And the mother, you can avoid just cut her from your life.
2007-09-18 06:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop believing them. They put you down to make themselves superior...and you are allowing it. You certainly know (see) some of their flaws, one of which is they will not accept you as you are (as you want to be).
They may claim that they do it because they "love" you...if they truly did, they would love you as you are and stop trying to change you or point out your faults (as they see them).
Stop accepting the negative things they say about / to you...reject their observations and statements.
2007-09-18 06:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Always Curious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself....
will u get angry with some dog barking at u for no reasons..?
if your answers is "no"
then...treat all those bad comments as "dog bark"...lol...
and keeps telling yourself u are great and smart...
just some people aren't smart enough to notice it..
2007-09-18 06:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by nightowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you are lovable and a good person and that you don't have to buy into negativity.
2007-09-18 06:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lefty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can come over to my place for a massage.
2007-09-18 06:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe in yourself more than they disbelieve in you. Create goals for yourself and watch yourself attain them, that will show them.
2007-09-18 06:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Smokin Gun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come live with me when i get my own place
2007-09-19 01:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by thaycallmejones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋