Hello There, When i was 13. My brother went to prison when he was 16 for attempted murder by puttin a knife to his enemys throat ( He was 15 or 16) and threatened to kill him and was going to but police got there in time. He got 5 years in a young offenders prison. Hes now 17 and serving a sentence.
This person that he nearly killed ruined his childhood, By threatening him day in day out And jumping him with his friends. But you know.
And he wants me to go into contact with him?
But the thing is he thinks its a joke in court, The court told him his sentence our hole family cried and screaming and all he said to the judge was " life goes on its nothing ".
Is he a bad person? Should i go to see him?
Im from the UK aswell.
And our young offenders prison quiet ruff aswell?
2007-09-17 22:48:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you think your forgiving makes him a better human being & he won't trouble you or anyone , then it's fine.
If your forgiving act make him feel free to do it again , it may not be a good idea.
You have all necessary details . Have a cool analysis & decide the deed.
2007-09-17 22:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Smiling_Umesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest truth I say forgive and see him because that way maybe you can help him see that taking anothers life isn't the way to go. If didn't show any type of remorse in the court room chances are if someone can't change his heart and help him realize murder isn't the answer then all they did is give him 5 years to plot and plan on how to get it done when he gets out. I understand the concept of the pure hatred he must have for this kid, but it is better to have remorse for having a failed attempt to end someones life as oppose to coming to that realization after you get the job done. Taking anothers life tends to weigh heavy on the the heart. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are, or were that led to it happening but it will stay with you for life.
2007-09-18 06:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK is it your brother that wants you to come see him or the person that caused your brother to go to prison? If it's the other person then I would say no don't go to see him b/c look at all the pain he/she has caused your family, and they could cause more. If it is your brother then honey go see him. He is not a bad person for standing up for himself. And maybe it wasn't that he looked at his sentencing as a joke maybe he was man enough to say hey ok I did this crime it could have been worse, but hey it's not. I hope you understand what I am saying. He is your brother no matter what he has done in his life and always will be your brother
2007-09-18 06:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by rooksgirl17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure i've understood everything. Your brother is in jail and wants to see you ?
My answer is sure, go !
My brother went to jail too, years ago, and i went to see him every saturday. He's your brother, he's family, and he cares about, look, he's asked to see you, so : sure, go !
He's commit something very bad, but it doesn't he is bad. People can change. Jail's also made for making people realizing they've acted badly. He deserves another chance. I'm not saying it's easy to forgive. But maybe if you see him, and talk to him, try to understand him and tell him how you feel, then i would be easier to forgive his stupid immature gesture.
And it's true that in prison is very tough, it's hell, really. Seeing you may help him a lot.
My advice is to go and see your brother.
Family is the most important thing on Earth.
2007-09-18 06:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anjali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a good person who did a bad thing. A person can only take so much abuse before they finally snap. He didn't make the best decision in dealing with his foe, but he was young & may have thought it was his only choice at the time.
Forgiveness has to happen before your family can heal. I hope you'll see your brother..
2007-09-18 06:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by jan c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes, go and see him.. Let him talk to you before you make up your mind on wither he's a bad person or not. To me it sounds as if he just needs to grow up a bit, he don't seem to get how serious this is but maybe he will some day. Give him a second chance, he deserves it! Maybe he's already changed!
2007-09-18 05:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by MeMyselfAndI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your brother. Regardless of the mistakes that he made in life, he will always be your brother. Hopefully, your love and the love of the family will help him to recover and make a better life for himself when he is released. He needs your love and support more than ever right now.
2007-09-18 05:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question...he's your family, he was constantly provoked, not just random violence and the "life goes on its nothing" crack, he needs to be hard, or portrait it, to protect himself emotionally and mentally while doing his time and act 'tough' so he doesn't have the same thing happen to him while in the prison that got him there in the first place.
he will get no positive role models in prison, if you want him to have a chance in life he will need the support and love of his family.
2007-09-18 05:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go see him. He's obviously trying to reach out to you, and you are brothers. Whatever he did, he's still your brother. Be isolating him, you will only make him resent life. Maybe if you show him that life is what you make it, he may try to be a better person.
2007-09-18 05:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me you are blaming the person who he tried to kill you brother should have been grown up enough to ignore the bully and not try to kill someone. no on this earth deserves to die because of words. you should go see your brother he is still your brother no matter what and forgiveness is something you have to find for yourself.
2007-09-18 05:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋