K. Imagine this situation. You are in a relationship. Both of you are chatting with someone online, your BF/GF having known that person longer than you have, but both of you have never met up with the person.
You go hang out with your friends at their house and your partner goes out to a bar with their friends (ones that don't happen to like you and in turn you don't like them back because of that stupid reasoning). You didn't plan on going out anywhere else that night after hanging out with your friends at their house, but since your partner is out with his friends and you don't want to go back home yet since it's still early.
However, your friends that you're hanging out with don't want to go out. Earlier that evening, you were chatting up with that mutual online friend and talked about what you guys were doing for the night. You told them your plans and they told you their plans.
Now knowing your partner will be out late, you text/call that mutual online friend that neither ..
2007-09-17 21:54:26 · 11 answers · asked by Troi Y 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
of you has met yet. Remembering earlier in the evening when you two chatted, they told you that they were going to the club with their friends. Now you want to know if they are still there because the night is still too young and you want to go out.
You get to the club. You're not dressed up at all. Practically you're dressed down. Old pair of faded out jeans. A regular t-shirt. And flip-flops. You see the person for the first time. You greet them like you would normally greet a friend. A hug that doesn't last more than it's supposed to be. A quick hi to each other. But then here goes:
1. They introduce you to their friend that they are sucking face with that you are his cousin (imagine that they are the same ethnicity or share part of the same ethnicity as you).
2. You're there by yourself, no one that you normally know. The guy tells you where they're going and you should stay there and wait til they come back. You say ok, but you don't. You walk around the club trying to see ...
2007-09-17 21:59:05 · update #1
if you can find a friend of yours that you didn't know was going out but did.
3. The club gets boring. No new music. So he suggests go checking out the other club. (And luckily they're all within walking distance). You two go to the other club. Same thing. No new music. Same old people that you normally see. So you two continually go back and forth between the clubs.
4. Neither of you are buying drinks for each other. You talk occasionally about nothing in general. They ask over and over again the same question as they are drunk and they keep on forgetting that they already asked you the same question: "Where's your man at? How come he's not out here with you?" And your reply: "He's out with friends that I don't like."
5. Night gets boring. He's even more drunk. You're worried he'll get pulled over by the cops for DUI but you're tired yourself. You try to be a good person and try to stay there until they sober up, but you're falling asleep yourself. So you decide to call it a night
2007-09-17 22:05:02 · update #2
So you tell him good night. Have a safe drive home. Give the person a hug. A normal hug goodbye.
6. A week later. You tell your partner that you met up with the person. But how it comes it, you stutter. Get fidgety. You yourself forgot the discussion that you had about what makes meeting up with a person a date and just meeting up to make friends. Your partner's view on it is a date because: "You met up with the person at a club. If you were meeting up as friends, you could've done it another time. Met up for lunch. Something. You followed him around like a lost puppy. Staying put in one area because they told you to. Following them to the other club. You should've just left the moment he introduced you as his cousin."
But you yourself never did anything with the person. You were bored. Your other friends were asleep or were not in the mood to go out. So you call up a person you've never met before to meet up and hang out at a club. So after all that long winded detail ....
2007-09-17 22:10:38 · update #3
IS THAT A DATE?
2007-09-17 22:10:59 · update #4
I could've written it shorter, but I think this turned more into venting time the more I got into it trying to get all the details as much as I can. Haha
2007-09-17 22:12:02 · update #5
No. Definitely no.
2007-09-18 00:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Brian_Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a date
2007-09-22 09:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, my g/f would look at it as a date. I would also only because, I should of called her to invite her. The fact of the "no invite" would make me look and also feel guilty. Sorry.
2007-09-25 04:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...not a date. I've been in the same predicament.
2007-09-22 12:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by scot2qt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's a date, America's top model has suddenly taken on really butch contestants.
2007-09-17 22:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Just saying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is this a date. Go home and sleep it off.
2007-09-17 22:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a date
2007-09-17 22:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a date it was the worst one in history!
2007-09-18 09:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely not a date.
2007-09-23 07:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...u could of wrote this so short
well its not a date
2007-09-17 22:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jason K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋