or is it one? This guy I used to date has made it a POINT to come back around and "invent" this "happy" life to BRAG about. which i believed at first and found out it was lies. he lied about being married. he is living with a obese woman but sent a picture of a model, bragging how this is his wife. there were several other lies too. why would the man do this?
2007-09-17 21:53:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and are these possible signs of a dangerous personality type?
2007-09-17 21:54:09 · update #1
and are these possible signs of a dangerous personality type?
2007-09-17 21:54:18 · update #2
It called being out of touch with reality.
He hates his life so he creates one that makes him at least comfortable and sometimes above average.
2007-09-17 22:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by chicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be- not sure what you mean by "dangerous " personality disorder- Lies as a symptom can be attributed to any number of behavioral diagnoses, including personality disorders or psychotic disorders- depending upon if he actually believes the lies he is telling-
Delusional disorder is characterized by the presence of recurrent, persistent non-bizarre delusions.
Delusions are irrational beliefs, held with a high level of conviction, that are highly resistant to change even when the delusional person is exposed to forms of proof that contradict the belief. Non-bizarre delusions are considered to be plausible; that is, there is a possibility that what the person believes to be true could actually occur a small proportion of the time. Conversely, bizarre delusions focus on matters that would be impossible in reality. For example, a non-bizarre delusion might be the belief that one's activities are constantly under observation by federal law enforcement or intelligence agencies, which actually does occur for a small number of people. By contrast, a man who believes he is pregnant with German Shepherd puppies holds a belief that could never come to pass in reality. Also, for beliefs to be considered delusional, the content or themes of the beliefs must be uncommon in the person's culture or religion. Generally, in delusional disorder, these mistaken beliefs are organized into a consistent world-view that is logical other than being based on an improbable foundation.
Tell him you don't want to see him and that he needs a psych assessment.
2007-09-18 05:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by a cabingirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental disorder? It could be. It is a matter or pride for him and when you find out the truth you only embarrass him.
He might be doing this to get back at you, to make you jealous so you will want him back, or because he is insane. I listed the items in order of the probability; he is probably trying to hurt you.
The best thing you can do is to ignore him, and when he comes around again give him the number for a local mental health line and tell him that compulsive lining is a sign of a serious mental disorder. Then get along with your life.
If he keeps coming back then that means he is jealous and wants you back; in which case you don't want him, so tell him that, if you need to make a point then file a restraining order with the police. Otherwise you don't need this guy hanging around you.
Pathological liar, compulsive liar, liar, or just plain creep all apply. The first way to treat a mental disorder is to admit you have one or to get admitted to a place that thinks you have one (mental hospital). If you continue seeing him he is only going to try and replace some of his misery on your shoulders so lose him fast.
2007-09-18 05:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt he has a mental condition. However, I think he is seriously immature and maybe even child-like. That's something you'd see a third-grader do. He wants to show you that he's doing just fine without you. It's like he's saying ha ha ha I'm doing great! He is also so obviously NOT over you. I wouldn't worry about him unless he gets violent or makes threats. Good luck!
2007-09-18 05:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Superfluous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to show he is not "hurt". It is a defense thing. He feels it is important you know this. Not really a "mental disorder" unless it goes to extremes. Next time, just say you are happy for him and not that you know he is inventing it. That would serve no purpose. Tell him you are happy as well, and doing fine. Now, can we please go about our own lives?
2007-09-18 05:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kiamichi47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's serious hon, he just sounds like either a compulsive liar (did he do this when you were together?) or someone who just can't get over you and wants to make you jealous. Going by what you have said, i think it's probably the latter.
2007-09-18 04:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by leanne j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this behaviour rises to the level of a disease. Maybe he just wants to get back at you.
If he does this to everybody -- not just people he used to date -- it might be a disease. It goes by a few names: "pathological lying", "pseudologia fantastica", or the really cool-sounding "mythomania".
2007-09-18 05:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Neil K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the technical term, but he sounds like a compulsive liar.
2007-09-18 04:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a pathological liar and yes this is a mental illness.
2007-09-18 04:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋