My husband is very posessive and suffers inferiority complex because I have been financially stable than him even before marriage 10 years ago. We have been through hell and back as a result of that. He assaulted me 10 months ago and since then I have not had sex with him because I have lost the love and respect I had for him. Could he be having someone somewhere to take care of his emotions. Not that it worries me but I feel curious to know.
2007-09-17 21:34:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly, you shouldnt be asking this question.
You know why?
BECAUSE YOU SHOULD BE DIVORCED ALREADY, YOU NITWIT.
Seriously girls, how many times does a guy have to punch you in the face before you grow a pair and kick them to the curb?
Alright lady, Yes, it is possible, but highly unlikley that he isnt going to get some sort of action if you arent dishing it out. Thats just how it is.
You say you have been more financially stable this whole time, and that he has assaulted you, and that he is inferior complexly or some other crap, so Why the hell are you still with him?
I am quoting you: "because I have lost the love and respect I had for him"
WHY are you still married? You have NO REASON whatsoever to still be with him. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND MOVE ON.
P.S.
You're damn stupid for this anyhow.
-D
2007-09-17 21:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by GoonterTheJellyDog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently it is something that you are concerned about if you are asking complete strangers for advice. I don't know your husband or you personally, but it seems like if he is willing to assault his wife verbally or physically,all because she makes more money than he does (and may be a little more financially responsible), then yes he is willing to screw around on you, behind your back. I don't know what to tell you about this, except to perhaps seek some counseling before he does it again.
You making more money than he does, is a petty reason for him to assault you. Any reason is, for that mater, You are his WIFE. You share everything, What the hell is his problem? It's not like you're taking the money and going on expensive cruises with another man. I can understand why, it's hard for you to sleep with him. 10 months is a while to go without sex though and I honestly do think that if you haven't addressed this issue in that amount of time, he is cheating on you. However, I am just an opinionated Yahoo! member and I really can't be certain of that. The only person who can be, is your husband.
Sit down and address this issue, whether it be through marriage counseling or just the two of you, Go out of town and take it easy for the weekend. Try to rekindle that old flame that was once there and see if you can improve your sex life, so that you wont have time to concentrate on these insecurities. Do what you need to do for your marriage. If you ignore these issues, nothing will change. You can never be sure what anyone is doing behind your back, but at least you'll know that you've tried to be the best wife that you can be, when and if it all goes to hell. Good Luck!
; )
2007-09-17 21:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can go a long time without sex, but few of us chose to do so. If your marriage is in such disarray as you describe, then why are you still married? If you are punishing him by denying him sex then are you making yourself or him any better or any happier? Men have pride and if you are more successful than he is that will hurt his pride, but he should be glad for you, support you and love you. A marriage is a partnership after all. Chances are pretty good that he has found an alternate to you by now, most men would. Especially if they feel the love has gone out of the marriage. But, a man doesn't shrivel up and blow away if he doesn't have sex. We just feel like that happens. You denying him sex is only making the situation worse. You need to re-evaluate your marriage. Either give up on it or re-build it. What is your husband's opinion on that matter? Does he care, does he want to, do you even know? You need to leave this board and go talk with him. Marriage is based on communication and the two of you are not communicating. It sounds like you don't care anymore with your line "Not that it worries me but I feel curious to know." If it did mean a matter of life or death would you care then? If meant permanent injury to him, would you care then? If it meant temporary harm would you care then? You have already passed one of those points; because you have hurt him. If he has gone off to sex comfort in some other woman's arms then that's what has happened. I won't say you deserve it; you deserve the loving man you married. But, if you don't want that man, if he can't be that man, then you need to let him go. Men do have a real physical need for sex. We are designed that way on purpose. The best survival tactic for a male is to breed with as many women, as quickly, and as frequently as possible. So sex is an important thing in our lives; evolution insures it. He can survive without sex, but you are only hurting him by denying it to him. Is it your goal to hurt him, if so then why are you still with him and not seeking your own comfort somewhere else? Either seek marriage counseling or end the marriage. Otherwise you are only causing both of you pain and misery. You don't have to live you life like that unless, divorce isn't an option to you. If you can get divorced then the longer you put it off the more bitter you will insure it will be.
2016-05-17 11:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is Yes, but you are asking the wrong question.
Why do you stay married after he assaulted you? Are you going to marriage counseling together? Cutting off the love and respect are not going to resolve anything....
Stay in and work on it or get out. Don't sit on the fence wondering how his "needs" are getting met.
2007-09-17 21:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you that much despite of what he did to you, you don't have to worry about him having an affair with somebody else but you must be careful coz by you not attending to his emotions he might get frustrated to it and will get that attention from somebody else. don't tell me you will totally do it to him by not having sex with him? if that's the case then why stick with him if you have lost your love and respect to your husband? if you are still willing to continue your relationship with him then as a couple you guys should talk it over but if it doesn't help i know for sure that there are a lot of counseling to help you with your marriage.
2007-09-17 21:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Veracious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" He assaulted me 10 months ago and since then I have not had sex with him because I have lost the love and respect I had for him"
and your still married to him because?
2007-09-17 21:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by WHOISTHEPUPPETMASTER? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he had that much need to assault you, then he probabaly would be getting something somewhere else.
all i have to say is that u deserve someone better!
2007-09-17 21:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave him and both you and he an opportunity to find happiness? Is it that important for you to stay and torture him?
2007-09-17 21:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are sexless marriages.
2007-09-17 21:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋