2007-09-17 20:56:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ South Africa
you sometimes don't have a choice, but i still do call to wish them well during festive holidays, birthdays, etc, your question has a strange timing, i was thinking just that, and i still don't know what the right thing is, knowing the reason(s).. why they've distanced themselves would help
2007-09-17 21:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sahar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends how close the bond is or was. With best friends or really really close friends, I'm the first to admit I can be a bit gullable. I would always try to keep the friendship going even no effort was made from them.
If we were never that close, or had a disagreement I really dont care that much about the distance and wont bother making effort from my side.
What I also realised is that the longer you are distanced from a friend or family, the more difficult it becomes to get that bond back and you sort of dont know what to do say to each other after a while.
2007-09-18 06:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes. What's the point in chasing after people? If I really like them, I might try to make overtures later, and give ourselves a chance to make up. But if they aren't interested, why suffer the heartache.
I also realize, though, they may be distancing themselves from everything -- it's not all about me, after all. I think it's best to try and talk about why it's happening. But if the person says, "No, I need time away from *you*," then I let them go. And it's up to them to make the overtures.
2007-09-18 04:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By choice, I've had very few friends in my life and only two have distanced themselves from me. I'm working towards reconciling with one. The other one scoffed at my attempts. I'm hurting inside but there's nothing I can do, so I've decided to distance myself from her.
2007-09-18 05:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Busi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately, I mean if someone does not want to associate with anymore what's the use of making yourself a nuisance to them. I keep my distance too.
2007-09-18 09:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jeez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definately. Its the only thing to do! Theres no use in clinging on and trying to chase him/her up, 99 percent of the time it wont work, it'll just push them further away. The good news is, if you let go completely, and treat them with the same indifference, they may well edge thier way back to you.
2007-09-18 04:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very easy to do this when you don't have to see the other person/s everyday. It's very difficult if it's a family member who you have to meet at sometime or the other. I think in life we all come to experience something of this nature and it makes us sad and confused as to what to do, especially if it has not been your choice. But if a person no longer wishes to acknowledge me then I should have the decency to respect their wish and move on in life without them in it.
2007-09-18 04:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Commodore 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes but I do have a dear friend who is depressed and ill & no longer call his friends (me included). I miss my friend very much and would like for him to get better... and so I refuse to let our friendship die by him trying to stay away from me. I write him and stay in touch with his family and keep hope that one day we can cook again together.
2007-09-18 04:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At present I don't even try to get close to anyone, so I guess I might be safe for now mate!
2007-09-18 11:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually i do because i get tired of not knowing how to deal with them. You get those people that are suddenly nice today & are cold the next day.So i get tired of having to assess their moods.
2007-09-18 05:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by T.I 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋