I've been feeling lonely lately and have been yearning for companionship to cushion my woes. But now I realize that not many people want to befriend those who are always down, which is understandable since it's a philosophy I agree with. I mean, I myself would rather talk to someone who's upbeat than depressed.
But if you're the one who's gloomy and having difficulty getting people to keep tabs with you, then how can you expect to bring yourself out of your misery?
How can you expect to be optimistic if you don't have any friends to uplift your mood? And how can you start to have friends if there's nothing to be optimistic about? It's like a catch-22, like a trap. Something's gotta give...
2007-09-17 19:39:46 · 8 answers · asked by MM 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel you man. I've been down lately and it seems like some of my friends have been kinda distancing themselves a bit. Of course your true friends, the ones you are close to will always be there for you.
If you want to meet new people however, you have be optimistic. Its true, people don't like to hear depressing things. Its ok to feel gloomy once a while, but when you are first meeting new people you can't just come right out and talk to them about negative things. Why shoud you though? You shouldn't let the gloomy things keep you from doing what you want right? You want to be happy by finding new friends, so when you find new friends you should be happy and show them how upbeat you are; instead of going back to being gloomy.
One step at a time, just realize you will not be sad forever, especially when you are willing to do something about it. Once you realize that, life become much more optimistic anyway.
2007-09-18 01:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a hug so.... *HUGS*. OK, now that that is out of the way, here's a little secret for you: Fake it till you make it!
What this means is that if you force yourself to smile and be jocular around people it will eventually become part of your personality. And it's not that you don't have it in you, you do, we all do. It's just hard sometimes getting out of a funk, especially if you are clinically depressed. Or say something like, "man, I'm sorry I feel so down all the time, but I just don't feel like I have much to look forward to - what's your secret to being so happy all the time?" Then genuinely take their advice. Find a hobby, start talking to people on the internet who understand the downside of you a little more and then just keep it separate from your real life friends unless you're going through a trauma or a crisis.
2007-09-25 21:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kknow the feeling, but I found out after a lot of self searching, that I was the only one that made myself depressed, and only I could get myself out of the depression and that was by thinking uplifting thoughts, There is one answer that I liked in those that people have given you answers, it is go somewhere and volunteer to talk to people who really need someone to talk to. Maybe even go to an old folks home, and volunteer to talk to some people there - volunteer to talk to a teen ager that needs guidance, you can find these people everywhere. Say nice things to those people that you meet and those people that are cold and unreceptive to you, you may find someone that is just as lonely as you are. Do not give up on yourself. You are worthwhile in this world, and thing positive about yourself. My prayers are with you and I expect good things out of you. - I am your friend.
2007-09-26 00:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here is what to be thankful forandits hould get your spirits up. you are live and well yu dnt' have anything wrong with you and you are one in a million and you are you. that should get you going. go and see the people and start talking adn be happy there are so many reason to be happy the blue skies and all the good things outside and renewal is upon us we're just lucky to be on this earth and have freee choice which alot dont' have you have fredom of relition and schools you need to ake up and smell the roses take care.
2007-09-25 21:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling when the world is against you and no one else to share the burden with.
Generally, people nowadays are so busy and don’t have the time for anyone else in their lives. It is unfortunate that people are selfish.
The only thing that keeps me going is that I pray to God if you’re spiritual that is. I also take my time to volunteer for people who needed a friend to talk to.. There’s so many people that are lost and lonely out there.
2007-09-18 11:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking to others to give you what you can only give yourself. The only person that can truly lift you up is you. Yes, it's lovely to have good friends and people who love you and your company but ultimately your happiness is defined by you. Is the fact that you are alive and well not enough to be optimistic?
2007-09-25 23:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Pencils are made &in. long, w/ 1/4 in. erasers, in case you thought optimism was dead.
2007-09-25 20:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want you!! to become my friend!!!we felt desame!!
2007-09-25 22:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bamboo_hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋