Tell me what to do with my wife and my girsl friend?

Question

I love my wife since we marriage ten yaers ago, but I met my girsl friend few month ago and I am feeling that I love her while I am still loving my wife and don,t known what to do.

Answer 1

I suggest you look at your wedding ring if you're still wearing it on your finger everytime you see an attractive woman. This will remind you that you are very much married.

Don't break your wife's trust. Beware of a woman's wrath!

Answer 2

I hate to tell you this, but you have made a committemnt to your wife and, while I realize that attractive women are everywhere, a woman you just met a few months ago doesn't share the history that you and your wife share. You don't say whether you and your wife have children, but, if you do, what about them? Is this woman worth losing your family for? Is this woman worth the pain you will cause you wife? Is this woman worth the trouble that a separation or a divorce will cause? If you have sons, is this the kind of message you want to give to them...that it is ok to treat a woman they are supposed to love, this way? If you have daughters, is this what you want them to know...that a man will throw everything away, including them, if they think they found something better? And what about you family and friends? Have you thought of the pain and confusion this will cause? Do you think that your friends and family will respect you as much, knowing that you are the kind of man who values his wife so litttle that he would cheat? You refer to this other woman as your "girlfriend." This tells me that you have a;ready had sex with her or, at least, have kissed her and been intimate in some way with her. So, you have already betrayed your wife, your kids, your family and everyone who cares for you. Are you happy? Now, millions of people you don't even know have less respect for you. I am so tired of seeing this same question pop up. This is what you do...either go to your wife and tell her thaat you have met someone, and give her the satisfaction of deciding what SHE should do or, go to your girlfriend and tell her its over. Its very simple. You can't have both. Its not fair to either of them and, believe me, although it seems like things are great for you right now, having 2 women, pretty soon things are not going to be so rosy. One day soon, under this nick, or another, you will be writing another question...how do I get my wife back? Or, possibly, why is my girlfriend, who I left my wife for, cheating on me? Don't think so? Wait a while.

Answer 3

Hi, Iam a woman but in the same position like you. i have a feeling for tht guy. As my thinking is i dont want to ruin my family. its better avoid the guy. I dont think my husband can accept this. Do u accept if your wife did this to you as i did. As a husband you wont so better avoid tht girl friend and continue love your wife. I know its hard for you since u have the feeling, no matter what you have to overcome the feeling. Bring you wife out of the country spend more time with your wife. share your experience but dont tell abt this girl friend.
Dont talk / see this girl. Automatically after some time everything will change. What you have is just a crush. after sometime it will change. we all are humanbeings.
Dont ever think of leave your wife, she is such a innocent woman.

Answer 4

You cannot love your wife fully while you ALLOW yourself to have feelings for this other woman. You make a choice when you even thought about having someone else in your life. Want my advice? End it with the girlfriend, confess to the wife, and if she will still have you, devote the rest of your life towards making your marriage work.

Answer 5

I honestly have to say this question doesn't make sense. If you, as you stated, love your wife of 10 yrs then why do you have a girlfriend? I think you need to sit down with a specialist and figure out what it is that you want before you hurt a lot of people.

Answer 6

Quit being a self centered jack ass. If you were a real man you would own up to it with both women. Assuming your girlfriend does not know you are married. If you really still love your wife then you should seriously commit to marriage counseling.

Answer 7

Unfortunantly love is tricky like that. I say (and i know this won't be popular) to love them both. With all of the ppl in the world the chances of finding 1 person that has everthing you need is insane, however don't be surprised or angry if your wife gets a boyfriend : )

Answer 8

you took a vow to stick with your wife and if you love her dont leave her that would be stupid cause you have spent ten years with her and just a few months with this other chick what if you leave her and then find out that you dont really love her as much as you thought you did do you really thank your wife will take you back that only happens in movie man

Answer 9

Um you should of never cheated.........but since you did, its possible to love 2 ppl at one time........do they know bout each other? some ppl have affairs for many years and never leave there wives...nor do the wifes ever find out, just dont bring a child into the picture that would be a big mistake

Answer 10

yo how dear u cheat on her that not love i dont know waht it is but u need to stop now.just let ur new foubd love be just a friend and only a friend. first of all then u tell ur girlfriend that u was marry is so why she still with u. just put it like this be u but dont hurt no one thats in the way.



sorry if i came off hard i just dont thing thats right

Answer 11

It's just sexual LUST! it's not LOVE! sometimes it's hard to tell the difference and you want to act out on these feelings but think of all the horrible consequences that you will have. Think of the pain that you will put your wife through, the hurt she will feel. Even years after she will always have a suspicion about you and that trust may never come back. It's NOT WORTH IT!