How did you manage financially? What were the best and worst results of your decision?
2007-09-17 19:05:55 · 18 answers · asked by jackie r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married for 4 months and got an anulment. I was drunk when I got married. I'm glad I'm not with him!
2007-09-17 19:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by keri_ricker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage - I was 19 and we had a 1-year-old daughter. I had another daughter when I was 20. We divorced because we never should have married in the first place. We did it thinking that it would make us a family, but it didn't. Now, today, I am remarried to a wonderful man that I've been with for 8 years (double the first marriage) and my daughters' father is still a drugged-out jerk.
The best consequence? He's a drugged out jerk and I have moved on from him. The worst results? NONE. It was 100% for the best.
2007-09-22 00:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Debi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for four years (together for nearly ten) and split up almost a year ago (not my choice). Financially I have been ok since i have always been pretty good at managing my money. The worst part of the divorce was having to change jobs and thus take a lower a wage for a few months. The best bit has been proving to myself that I deserved better and my friends and family finally being honest about their opinions of my ex-wife.....funny how they all have the same opinions lol.
She still wants to be friends-I don't see it, we have nothing in common anymore.
2007-09-18 10:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage lasted 5 unhappy years. Our marriage ended because of the death of our 4th child. She died at birth and the grief was just too unbearable. 50% of marriages break up after the death of a child. The marriage I have now, has lasted 2 years and it probably will last forever. We both are much more mature, we've been through the fire in our individual lives and we walked into this with our eyes as open as possible, although there is always adjustments.
I feel that the reasons we are doing so well are:
1. We both have our own friends and our own support network separate from each other.
2. We both put our faith in God first and foremost in our relationship
3. We both desire to remain committed...if we would end it, what a waste you know?
4. We both share our thoughts, dreams, ourselves, fully and completely.
5. We eat dinner together and enjoy a nice breakfast while reading the comics on the weekends.
6. We allow one another time and space as much as possible.
7. We believe in the marriage and "Us." And we are in love with 'us," as a couple.
8. We get out of the house as much as possible and we do things that the other really likes to do...I will watch a good football game for him, and he will take me out on a Sunday drive.
Marriage can work and does work if you both put forth a real committed effort. Love is not just a feeling, it's a decision too. So I try to wake up every morning deciding that I am going to do everything I can to make it a happy and loving home for him. And it just works.
2007-09-18 02:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by BookButterfly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 21 years. I divorced my ex for adultery with 2 women. Financially it was difficult. I had to go on to benefits and then CSA eventually got hold of him. He still refused to pay me maintenance but they took out a deduction from earnings order. He had to pay me £600 a month for 2 children this included all the arrears. For the other 2 children I not entittled to any money as one was at uni and the other started work. I eventually went to work and got childs tax credit. I best part of this was standing on my own to feet and showing him that we didn't need him. 6 years on I am married to a wonderful man and we both have a really close relationship with all my children and grandchildren and the ex has his new wife and her children.
2007-09-18 04:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dory 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 7 years.
It ended because I found I could no longer trust her, as she lied all the time about money and hid huge debts.
I never relied on her money, as she never had any, which made it easier to survive without her.
The worst result was the inevitable loss of a once good friend (my ex wife), the best result was getting my life back.
2007-09-18 02:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 18 years, and have 2 children.
We just drifted apart. We are still good friends & support each other as much as possible.
Financially it is much worse because we had to buy 2 houses with the proceeds of one.
2007-09-18 02:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
married for 22 years found out he was having affair named her in the divorce went through really quick with both of them admitting adultry that was 9 months ago best result was her doing the same to my ex they were only together for 2 months when she took an intrest in the next married man, she has been named again in that divorce case. my ex now realises grass is not greener on the other side. i am happier than i have been in years, my ex husband is sad,lonely,kids won't have anything to do with him, sleeping on his mothers settee it couldn't have happened to a better person.
2007-09-21 07:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 yrs.
44 yr old wife had affair with 15 yr old boy.
i turned he into cops.
she got fired from the school.
tossed her out.
divorce...
she did not go to jail...cause she was a woman..go figure.
did it screw me up?
to this day.
i didn't have to worry financially.
best n worst results:
best...by turning her in to the police i kept her out of jail. i stopped it before it got to a point where she would have been tossed in jail. however i did not know the extent of the relationship at the time, i was just praying it didn't go that far.
worst...she was my wife, how could she have done this, i just dint get it.
i asked her for the police report but she wouldn't get it for me.
they would not give me a copy.
i hurt ever day when i think of her.
etc etc etc.
2007-09-18 05:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Joe H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married for 6 years he never knew i was there untill i asked him to leave , financially i was ok as we did not have any money to worry about, we have been split up now for 2 years and i have still not had a penny for our kids! i have since met the man of my dreams he is older than me and has showed me life is worth living my life is great .
2007-09-18 02:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 years. Selfishness, sexual incompatibility/ I managed to get good lawyers and a good settlement. The best: I am able to be myself now and live life the way I want it to live. The worst: children's childhood definitely got affected.
2007-09-18 02:23:55 · answer #11 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋