I have a huge crush on my massage therapist and it is driving me crazy. He is so adorable and the way he touches me is so sensual. It really turns me on and I'm pretty sure he knows. He has gradually started touching me more amd more intimately, but never goes over the line. I'm married and older than him. Is it wrong for me to enjoy this as much as I do? I honestly don't think I could make myself stop seeing him. The time I am with him makes me happier than anything else I have going on in my life right now.
2007-09-17 15:44:59 · 16 answers · asked by loulou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well I guess you have a crush on him, because in your normal existence you have been neglected. the massage is the intimacy you need as a person, and if you don't experience it with your hubbie..... you long for it in arms of strangers.
don't risk your status quo over it. try to see how you can regain that special feel in your own relatiionship.invite your husband to some special weekend where you can both enjoy couple's massage and pampering, maybe you will find a way to see the special things that made you marry years ago.
the young massage guy..... of course he can feel what his touch does to you. I hope he remains as professional as he is, because something else would be wrong and bring on desaster, mainly for you, you're the one to loose a lot.
good luck and I hope you can manage.
2007-09-17 15:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you could keep this in the realm of enjoying something FOR WHAT IT ACTUALLY IS, then I would say just enjoy the feeling, but this sounds like more than a crush on your side, and I think you are fooling yourself. You already know what to do: change massage therapists or risk taking that next step. If you do, you will be a fool, and an old fool at that. You know that, don't you?
2007-09-23 06:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it worth ruining or losing your marriage/family over? If not, don't worry because it's just a crush. Crushes don't last. You really don't know the guy either. Just think about all of the other women that probably feel the same way you do because he touches them the same way. But enjoy it while it lasts. Just don't let it go overboard and keep it under wraps. Pardon the pun.
2007-09-17 16:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by sbp 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am in school for massage therapy. We had an ethics class that was completely on this subject. no it is not wrong for you to feel this way. apparently most people who do see a massage therapist often, have feelings for the person because of the way that they can make them feel. you dont truly know the guy, you just know how he can make you feel with his hands. almost as if you are putting him on a pedastul because he is making you feel good in ways that your husband doesnt because he is relieving stress and tension. you are an older woman, maybe he digs older women, him being a younger man. i can completely understand where you are coming from, i would just watch it if your relationship with your husband is a good one.
2007-09-17 15:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by dunno 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Just enjoy it. Don't let it become such a big thing in your life that you think it could replace your marriage. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Someone touching your sensually is a pleasure to be savored, not to risk a future on it.
2007-09-22 19:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh please!!! The messages by these from above I would not listen to!!! Girl I hope to god 9 years ago you pulled the trigger! I had a similar situation. He was married and let me tell you he banged me in every hole that I have and still does! My marriage does not suffer it helped it! I raised 4 kids! All good kids and my husband thinks our sex gets stronger as we go on! Girl do it! What I did is I just turned around and went "Opps" as I just spread my legs wide ope and said gosh I hope this didn t offend you? After that all hell broke lose when he went down on my snatch!
2016-09-18 11:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having a crush on him.......sometimes a stranger make us feel better about ourselves than our own spouse does....As long as you fully realize that it is his JOB to make you feel good....it's fantasy on your part but that is part of the appeal, it makes you come back and spend more money. It benefits you and financially, him.
2007-09-17 16:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i can understand but remember hes not seeing it the same way you are you are thinking that he feels that way but i bet he does not realize it and that is where the difference is. yours is imaginary and his is doing what hes doing for pay. i know its sad but that is what you are looking at dont' see nothing into this at all good luck
2007-09-22 13:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's just a crush. unless you want it to go farther than that. if you go any farther than just a crush, remember that there will be consequences. a cute guy, rubbing you in all the right places, i can see the dilemma that you're having!
2007-09-17 15:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by KellyKapowski 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Considering that you are putting his career at risk with your selfishness (he could lose his license because of you), if you really "care for him" then you'll stop seeing him.
2007-09-17 16:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋