how is that healthy for the relationship?
2007-09-17 15:36:43 · 10 answers · asked by Nilly 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
it depends. if its ALL the time, and you find yourself thinking about other women while having sex, i think it would be considered a problem. ive talked about it with my husband, and theres been a few times they hes thought about other women during sex (as all men have at one point). i asked him if he thought of a specific woman and he said no, he just thought of boobs and whats between our legs. i believe him. hes got no reason to lie. something like this is fine, but if you begin having an infatuation with another woman amd shes all you can think about while by yourself or with the significant other it may cause problems.
2007-09-17 15:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by raspberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. And it's not just an issue for men - I'm sure women do it too. (I saw this on some message board of an actor...LOL)
If it's occasional, and just about women physically, then I think it's okay. Something like a celebrity or something - most people have little celebrity crushes. A real person they know though, I think that would be wrong, especially if he kept doing it.
I think it really depends on the relationship though, what his reasons are for doing it, if it's specifically because he doesn't like his wife or wants another woman, that would be wrong, but if it's just because he's a man and is thinking of random ****, that sounds normal.
2007-09-18 05:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean is it wrong for a man to masturbate Thinking of other women?
Honestly, I don't think that I would much mind. It wouldn't make my day to know that but hey if it is Just a Fantasy than I wouldn't feel betrayed. I may even be amused.
If you are talking about cybersex with a woman he met online than that is very different..I would feel that he is stepping out on me and I would consider ending it with him.
But if it is just fantasy than it's pretty normal and I think it is probably healthy for the relationship.
2007-09-17 22:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its perfectly normal I think they say the average man thinks about sex once every two minutes or something like that. And the other part of the equation is woman tend to let themselves go after mar rage they stop wearing there makeup and the tight clothes pack on a few pounds and its no wonder we men start looking for other things to turn us on. And I am not saying its only the women that stop trying to attract there spouse because there are plenty of fat men out there going to the store in there sweat pants because they fit more comfortably. So the long and short of it is if you want to keep your mate inst rested in you sexually you have to keep finding ways to keep them sexually simulated, keep yourself attractive and don't take each other for granted because there is always somebody else looking..
2007-09-17 23:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by DAND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong. A guy can love his wife and think she's beautiful, but still jerk off thinking about other women. Their wives might take this the wrong way - that they aren't sexy or attractive enough. If a woman has those thoughts, than it's something she could probably work on anyways. Get a little sexy, ladies, help him out, or watch him, or let him watch you. No guy will turn that down.
2007-09-17 22:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, women need to understand that a guys gunna do what a guys gunna do as far as masturbation it's self goes, but do you really need to get on the computer and lust after women you'll never be with when you have a perfectly willing wife waiting for you in bed?
2007-09-17 22:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think it's wrong. If you pay for your video or magazine, you deserve to enjoy it. I think that only an immature or insecure woman would tell her mate that it's not okay to masterbate to porn. Ladies, you have to realize that the broad they look at means nothing. And then, learn to be grateful that he is seeking pleasure alone rather than with someone other than you. His had won't give him AIDS so lighten up.
2007-09-17 22:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Helpfull? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong at all, but if you tell your wife or girlfriend you aren't thinking about her she might get her feelings hurt a little bit. it is normal to think about other women and fantasize. don't think that your wife or girlfriend always thinks about you when she is masturbating, because she is probably thinking about other men too!
2007-09-17 22:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how would you feel if your girlfriend or wife masturbated thinking about another guy?
2007-09-17 23:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not.
2007-09-17 22:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Rob B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋