All he does is drink beer and stay at the neighbors house and he gets mad when i dont clean or cook an he want help me do anything he says thats a womans job and his dad didnt have to an he want either.
2007-09-17 15:27:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump him and move on. You aren't a maid. You can't change men like that, all he's going to do is treat you like crap forever.
2007-09-17 15:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG my bf expects the same from me and my response is you came into this relationship knowing I don t cook, I work. So i tell him if you want me to be a stay at home wife "FINE" i ll quit my job and you can support both of us the house will be clean and dinner will be waiting. He gets so mad, always makes me chuckle and it gets him off my back for a few months. I can t stand a dirty house so i clean no matter what even when we cook together or he cooks I always clean after. He says some mean things I just throw it back at him knowing his mom is a lazy cow who doesn t cook or clean, in fact when she comes over and washes our dishes i have to rewash all of them they still have food and coffee stains and just gross.
2016-03-21 08:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ticketgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did his Dad work and his Mother stayed at home? If so tell him that your situation is different, with you both working.
Then let him know that you didn't marry his Dad, and that you are NOT his mother. That you two are a different couple, with your own relationship, and your own set of rules. And tell him just what you expect from him, in keeping up his end of the relationship.
But I am curious, didn't you know of his attitude in this department before you to got hitched?
2007-09-17 15:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, and have the talk, You are not your father and I am not your mother. U have 2 help around the house. Decide what chores u will do and what he will do, if u don't agree. It's time 2 move on. Once u start doing all the cleaning they won't change.
2007-09-17 15:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by ANTM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gotta tell him straight that you both are working its not like youre a stay home woman, if the two of you were going to get married would you obey his silly orders like that for the rest of your life while he goes and does whatever he wants, come on women have some power now, leave him and let him boss someone else around, you can do better
2007-09-17 16:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you CHOSE to live with a guy who doesn't cook or clean but expects YOU to do it all...He isn't going to chage...he doesn't HAVE to change. This is what happens when you move in with someone before you actually know the type of person they really are.
2007-09-17 16:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on strike and and dont cook or clean for maybe i say a month I bet u will see him doing some thing eventually.
2007-09-17 15:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by justagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know this is NOT the man you want to marry. You want a man who is a help-mate and who loves you enough to be there in the evening with you and not out with his buddies. A woman's job? Kick that bum out of the house, honey, and go find a man worthy of you. This guy is a loser.
2007-09-17 15:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he won't change unless he has a reason to. Tell him that he has to either help or pay for someone else to come in to cook and clean because you can't do it all.
If that is unreasonable to him then tell him he can do it all himself as you refuse to pick up after him until he can learn to help.
Or threaten to move back home and divorce his sorry lazy ***.
2007-09-18 01:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meagon,
get rid of this guy now while you can. He needs to get away from the booze, get a job, and then wake up in the 21st Century. Hard to believe in this day and age there are idiots that think this way - they make me sick and just peave me off.
Start over and start anew - be careful who you choose next time - but get rid of this bum first.
Best of luck!
2007-09-17 15:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His dad was presumably married to his mother?
You sound way to sweet to be waiting on this idiot.
Move out and don't move in with another man until you find one that respects women and has a really nice father.
2007-09-17 15:55:28 · answer #11 · answered by HannaJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋