Baby shower drama? Would have you been mad?

Question

At my baby shower i had a book for everyone to put advice in or a little inside joke or something. Well i had my friends there from parenting class and while i was in parenting class during the school year i ended up killing 2 or 3 of them fake baby dolls you take home with you, or they would just die on me. Anyway so my friend put on the advice page,"remember you don't have a 2and or 3rd chance on this one so don't kill it" and earily that day we were even taking about it, but my almost in laws- my boyfriends aunt and grandma read that and started freaking out asking my boyfreinds mom if i was pregnant before and things! and they apparenty didn't hear the inside joke eariler and finally they asked me and im like no, its from a parenting joke and had my boyfriend tell them becuz i didn't feel like explaining. I was just wondering if this would of upset and what you would have done or said? I just kind of ignored it but i did have me upset. Did you ever have any drama like that? Thanks

Answer 1

Honestly, I would probably have started laughing and walked away without ever telling them - it's nobody's business but your own and your boyfriend's.

Answer 2

I don't think it's a question of wrong or right. I think it's a matter of understanding. I think that Michelle had on understanding or expectation and when you said that you were going to need to separate the guest lists she flipped out before you had a chance to explain that she wasn't being ousted but that amongst you and your fam or whom ever it isn't uncommon to have more than one shower. Btw, I say the more gifts the better!! However you look at it she was hurt, which is what caused her to react that way. She must have thought about it again even after apologizing and still felt angry at being hurt or maybe she still just didn't understand why she wasn't the only person to throw a shower. Maybe she believes that you never really had any intention of letting her do it too. Who knows. Talk to her. Apologize sincerely and see where it leads you. That's the mature and right thing to do. If it doesn't work then she has some issues she needs to resolve on her own.

Answer 3

Girl honestly I would be mad and I wouldn't be mad. I would be mad because they are just being too inquisitive, personally it is none of there business if you have been pregnant before or not all they need to worry about is the fact that you are pregnant now and that you are expecting a healthy baby in a couple of months. Then I wouldn't be mad because it is his grandma and they want to know any and everything even when it doesn't apply to them so I would just brush it off and not even entertain that mess with an answer. Just keep walking like you don't hear them talking.

Answer 4

I dont think your friends meant any harm by what they wrote in the book, but I guess the could have worded it a little differently. On the other hand, that's an inside joke between you and them, so your boyfriend's family should just leave it alone and calm down. Dont let it worry you; you should be relaxing and getting ready for the baby.

Answer 5

If you thought the message in the book was funny, that's all that matters. The book is for you, not for your family members and if you said it was for advice and inside jokes and they decide to read it anyway, it's their fault for not getting the inside joke. If they don't like it, they should have kept their noses out of it, in my humble opinion.

Right now, you and the baby's daddy should concentrate on being a happy, healthy family. Stay positive, think about all of the wonderful things going on with your body and the addition of a new life to care for and love. Many blessings to you!

Answer 6

while i do think your friend could have been a little more discreet, i think you should just laugh it off. Don't let the inlaws get to you (at least not yet anyway!) If it makes you feel any better, just put in parenthesis under her comment "talking about fake baby dolls" to avoid ppl coming to their own conclusions again.
Just an idea, good luck with your new bundle of joy!

Answer 7

During my first baby shower, some of my friends did not want to participate in the baby games. Instead of leaving them alone, my aunt and grandma decided to give them a hard time about it. It ended up with my friends leaving and my grandma and aunt complained about it the entire party and I couldn't let it go. It was terrible

Answer 8

That "joke" was in very, very, very poor taste. To even try to be funny about killing a baby is just awful. I would not be mad, just aggravated. Explain to your boyfriend's aunt and grandma what happened, and try to assure them that you will be a great mommy. Maybe later on you can laugh about it all.

Answer 9

I thought it was funny. I would have laughed and moved on. That's the whole thing about inside jokes and seeing other ppl confused after hearing it is part of what makes them funny.
I wouldn't be mad

Answer 10

No I dont think it would've made me mad..
Of course they are going to ask some questions because as you said it was an inside joke..
I would've just explained why the comment was made,laughed it up and walked away..

Answer 11

HELLO HORMONES! No I would have laughed and then explained it to them, but thats just me. Your body is going through so many hormonal changes that it was sure to make you laugh or piss you off LOL. Its OK you are entitled to be upset, but you really cant blame them considering they really did not know. I wouldnt let it get to you:)If it is still making you made, go through some baby stuff and I am sure half way through it you will be smiling!