I had my baby girl 6 days ago & my mom does not trust me with her! Yes i am young im 15 but God she's my child! We just came home yesterday & i was feeding her ( bottle i cant breast-feed) & my mom snatched her from me & said that i wasnt doing it right! Then every time i start cuddling with Em ( my baby her name's Emma but i call her Em) my mom complety ruins it! It's frustrating me so much! Yes i know i am young ( i was rapped and decided to keep her & yes im doing fine im a Christan & have a awsome support group) but i mean come on she's not letting me hold my own child! What do i do? I know she deserves to hold her & i do let her hold her but she's acting like she's her mom!!!
2007-09-17 11:35:48 · 19 answers · asked by marrisa2556 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No rude commets please thanks :)
2007-09-17 11:36:27 · update #1
Yeah i took a couple of parenting classes. And i have watched my cousins alot ( ages- 5 years, 3 years, & 10 moths).
2007-09-17 11:50:35 · update #2
First off, Congratulations! It is a very mature decision to keep a child after what you have been through and should be enough for your mother to trust you with your child. I can honestly see both sides of the party- your mom is trying to help and though she is not doing it in the right way, its her intentions that matter. Maybe you could ask/suggest that instead of taking the baby away from your during feeding or cuddle time, that she suggest show you how to do it right. (Even if it is NOT the right way it will still give her satisfaction to think she is teaching you something.)
But being a mother means more than just taking care of a baby, it also means growing up and being an adult. If you have a problem with what your mom is doing, sit down *during naptime for baby so there are no interruptions* and talk calmly. Make a list (a short one so it doesn't cause offense) of what she is doing and how it bothers you. Maybe then you can work together to get a solution.
I hope this helps, and again, your decision to keep this baby was a very mature and responsible decision, considering your alternatives.
2007-09-17 11:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by irmlsmith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, God bless you. Secondly, just sit your mom down and tell her it makes you upset when she takes over like that. Try to involve her, but make it known that YOUR the babies mother, not her. My mom did this a few times when I had my daughter and I let her know I was fine and I would ask her for help when I needed it. She's only doing it to help out and she has that "motherly instinct" I'm sure, but since it bothers you then you should let her know. Best of luck with your baby!
2007-09-17 11:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Momma! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have your head screwed on the right way.
I'm a young mother myself.
Just talk to her, and tell her how you are feeling.
Any decent person would back off...
It will all work out.
That mother-ly instinct you have, she has as well.
She means well I am sure... And has experience.
But honestly tell her to give you and your baby some space.
Tell her you want to have a bond with your child, and thank her for supporting you and your decisions. Alot of mothers make their daughters put the child up for adoption, or possible abortion.
Take care of your little Em.
<3
2007-09-17 11:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though you are young, you ARE her mother and you just need to stand up to your mom. There are many differences between when your mom had you and now in how to feed a baby, so her way may be outdated and dangerous. Get a nurse to come and talk to her. You are a strong person to keep your baby after going through what you did. I wish you and your baby all the best.
2007-09-17 11:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is going overboard with secure practices. BE FOREWARNED; once you have your person babies she will maximum in all threat act a similar. while you're check along with her on the telephone and in case you have your person toddler crying interior the history assume your mom again working on your place to quiet down your person toddler. If I have been you i'd attempt and get out of this occasion, because of the fact it style of feels clean that she is being degrading and is undermining your adventure as a toddler care worker.
2016-10-04 22:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by keva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something you'll need to talk to your mom about. Have her show you how to feed, and do everything else, instead of taking over, b/c you need to learn. Stay very open-minded, even if her teaching seems unnecessary, but let her know that it's important that YOU do the "mommy" stuff, for you, and your child, so she'll grow close to her mommy, and feel safe and secure.
I'm very proud of you for making such a huge decision so young. You're very lucky to have your mom there to help....but she needs to help, not take over.
2007-09-17 11:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget YOU are your mom's baby. It must be hard to her to see you go through all this so young and I imagine her own maternal instincts are making her get carried away.
Remind her that she had to figure out how to care for you her own way, and it sounds like you turned out well. Try to ask her for tips and advice, but if she tries to take the baby away, gently remind her that it is your child and you need to learn for yourself. Most of the time, you're not doing it "wrong", you're just not doing it her way.
2007-09-17 11:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by eli_star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hon i just wanted to tell you that i really respect you for your decision and am glad you are getting the support you need! it looks like you have a lot of good advice about the situation with your mom, good luck to you and God bless!
2007-09-17 12:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by kiss my evie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard, but maybe you could sit her down and tell her what you said here. This is your baby, and you are going to do your best to take care of her properly. It is a trial and error basis, and you can only learn if you are given the opportunity. God bless you in your decision, I know it has got to be hard for you.
2007-09-17 11:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not really sure what to tell you! try talkin to your mom! i was 15 too when i had my first one, tell her ppl do it everyday & there is a thing called motherly instincts!* I did fine with my kid & went back to school. My mom helped but didnt take over. But i hope everything works out for you good luck & God bless!*
2007-09-17 11:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋