why do people say that it is hard to concive if so many people get pregnant when there trying not to?

Question

I have been trying to get pregnant, and every one keeps saying that it can take up to a year, and that it is hard to get pregnant, but I see so many other people that got pregnant when there were trying not to , and when they were even using protection. So it makes me wonder is it really that hard to get pregnant or are people just saying this to make me fell like I still have a chance?

Answer 1

It is one of those mysteries as to why some people get pregnant without trying and why some try and try and just seem to have no luck. It is unfair and frustrating, and I wish I had more of an answer for you.

You just have to have faith. You are going to be blessed with a beautiful child someday. It really can be hard to get pregnant, especially if you are under stress. I wish you lots of baby making luck!

Answer 2

It is hard when people are charting and getting too hung up on having sex only during ovulation because it is possible to miss it. Also, most fertile couples will take up to a year to conceive because you only have a 20-25% chance of conception each month. people who are not trying are having sex often enough and are not worried about an ovulation date and they happen to have sex at the right time because they are not stressed over that one day.. however.. I do not think people should stop trying and expect i to just happen.. I think couples should put the effort into it without obsessing over one ovulation day and keeping their fingers crossed.

I know all the charters will give me a thumbs down, but this is an honest answer to your question. I tried for 3 yrs before becoming pregnant and I actually tried the charting method before I knocked it..I dont want to see anyone have to go through trying that long and wondering why isnt anything happening ... so here is my advice...

According to my fertility specialist, charting temps and looking for EWCM is a flawed method because- anything such as slight fever, illness or infection raise your temp and EWCM can be present in ovulating women and at various times of your cycle.. not necessarily just at ovulation. The method is based on how a womans body is supposed to act during her cycle, but every woman is different and if your cycles are not precise, the method will be that much harder to interpret. I have the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and the software that goes with it.. I tried charting for months and following the method and even the software could not keep up with my body.

I love the ClearBlue Easy Fertility Monitor ( buy online or at ebay) and I would definitely invest in that or the OPK's. Using the monitor and the OPK's confirmed that I did not ovulate month after month when the charting method and software suggested I was ovulating a lot.

The best way to try is to have sex every other day between days 9 -22 .. you will be covered if you O early or a little later and sperm will live in your body anywhere from 3 days to 1 week. If your partner abstains from any ejaculation that day in between it will help build up his sperm count again. Lay still for at least 10-15 mins after sex and dont get too hung up on the specific day of ovulation. Trying every other day will ensure that you will have sperm available for when the egg drops. You will also keep your partner very happy and as I said you will have enough sperm present for when the egg drops.

Lots of luck and baby dust!

Answer 3

I have been TTC for over 1 year. I always ask myself the same questions about why is this teenage girl pregnant, or why did my friend get pregnant while on BC, or how come so many women are popping up pregnant around me???

I think it's all in the Lord's hands. When the time is right, he will give you the miraculas gift of a baby. Think about it, it is truly a miracle & once it happens, you will be ready & it will be time.
At least this is what I keep telling myself....I am SO impatient. I feel for you & so do MANY others.

Answer 4

I think some people do have to try harder to NOT get pregnant than they do to get pregnant. Why? Who knows, but some people are just plain more fertile. Most everyone I know has gotten pregnant (after thinking they couldnt and even after many rounds of IVF) when they stopped trying. I think it is harder for your body to become pregnant when you try too hard. You just stress yourself and your body making it hard to get pregnant. I have never had a problem getting pregnant, but I always had the attitude that if it is meant to be it will be. Not to say I have not wanted it or "tried" or anything, I even obsessed about it, but maybe you should consult your dr if you have been trying for more than 6 months. Some people do have medical reasons for not getting pregnant. Some people DO need the extra help of Clomid, or other such drugs and some people do need IVF in order to get pregnant. Its just the way it goes:) But I am sending some of my baby dust your way in hopes that you will be pregnant soon:)

Answer 5

They aren't just saying it to make you feel better, all women are different, some have a harder time conceiving and some conceive just because. Also, you might have heard this, the more you want to get pregnant, the less it will happen, just try not focus on it as much, put it in the back burner, and when you least expect it, WHAM!! your baby will be in the oven. I know it's easier said than done, when we really want something, it's difficult not to think about it, but try to be intimate with your husband because you want to be with him and you enjoy being with him, not only with the hope that that might be time it happens and you conceive. My sister-in-law tried to get pregnant and they had sex just for that, and it didn't happen, but the day then actually forgot about it, and just made "love" that was the time they got pregnant, I'm not just saying this, it did happen to her, and both times it was the same, don't plan your pregnancies, just wait for them to happen on their own.
I wish you the best of luck, and don't worry, you will become a mommy when you least expect it. GOD BLESS YOU!!

Answer 6

I have been a Type 1 diabetic since 1988 and have had 4 pregnancies (3 full-term and 1 miscarriage). I had no trouble at all getting pregnant. We only had to try a month or two......

Answer 7

It's easy to get pregnant for the majority. For some people it takes longer. I mean, I sure wouldn't want to dash your hopes when you could maybe get extra baby dust this month. Some women try as long as 3 years and then suddenly, the 2nd stripe appears. Why couldn't they before? Who knows?

Answer 8

Its not neccesarily "hard" to get pregnant..
You only have a certain gap to become pregnant in ones cycle..
So say you have a regular 28 day cycle you ovulation days are approximately days 11-14 or so..
And sometimes things just happen for a reason..I dont like to think I beleive in coincendences...As I said things happen for a reason...
And yes it can take the average couple up to a year to become pregnant..I got pregnant with my son,when I wasnt trying...Had him then got pregnant again when I was charting my fertile days..
Best of luck to you :)

Answer 9

i've been wondering the same kind of thing. i'm not trying to get pregnant, but i was wondering why women have become so obsessed with charts, temperatures, ovulation kits, etc. when not that long ago none of that stuff existed. how do we think women did it a hundred years ago? fifty years ago? even twenty? it seems the more you stress and plan, the longer it takes. shouldn't you just enjoy the process until you really feel like you have reason to worry?

Answer 10

The people who say it is hard dont really understand that you need to have sex before you ovulate not just the day of and those who get pregnant without trying happened to have good timing when they had sex and dint know it..