okay so my boyfriend and I live in a nice gated apartment so i would assume the people that live here are well off and nice. Last month my boyfriend was at the local skatepark which is small and one of our apartment neighbors was there skating as well with his wife. After a while my bf and him started talking and they relized that we all lived in the same apartment. Our apartment is made up with several different big buildings and our building is across from theres.
okay so the other couple is about 8 years older then us. ( we are 21) and while talking with them we also find out they 'smoke the herb' as do we. they want us to come over and watch a movie or bbq with them, however I am nervous they will want to smoke first, which I am not an openly smoker.
We were ignoring them at first, but I decided to say HI when I saw them outside a while ago so they wouldnt think we were rude ppl. Now i feel pressured to go hang out with them or something. am i just being anti social or what?
2007-09-17 10:55:42 · 9 answers · asked by HersheyKissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good fences make good neighbors. Nobody will force you to do anything you don't want to do.
You can never have enough good friends. And, you never know when you might need a good friend. You have to decide if these people might be good friends.
Personally, I don't do the "the weed." But, as you said you do and they do, perhaps they're just lonely for some people that they have some things in common with.
You can always visit them and then if you don't feel comfortable leave or decide not to make a return visit, or, you might find that they're really nice people who want to be just good friends and not drug buds.
If the latter is the case, you'll be missing out on finding good friends in your area. And, good friends are hard to find.
2007-09-17 11:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. These people share some of your same interests, so it would be okay to share those interests together... but if doing so makes you uncomfortable, then you certainly don't need to.
You could just decline the "refreshments" and stick to socializing. But if you hang out with them once you will be more tempted to do so again, and this may develop a friendship or encourage a habit that you don't want increased.
It's perfectly acceptable to politely decline the invitation and just stick to a friendly hello in passing.
To be honest, if a guy is pushing 30 and is still skateboarding and smoking herbs, then he's clearly given up on mature personal development - he's kinda a bum and isn't ever going to change. What's fun and fine in your early 20s gets a little pathetic in later years, so you need to decide if that's the sort of person you and your bf want to be and want as part of your life.
2007-09-17 18:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're truely being anti social. there's no rule that says you have to befriend ur neighbors, but it would be nice. If you guys both like to smoke thats ok to. just tell them u dont smoke all the time and ur not in the mood. maybe u should bring ur own smoke and share. that way u know what ur smoking. but theres nothing wrong with saying no.
2007-09-17 18:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by QUEENA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your being anti social. There is nothing wrong with you and your boyfriend becoming friends with them. You guys obviously have the same interests. So the question is, why not hang out with them? just cause your not a openly smoker is a pretty lame reason not to hang out with them
2007-09-17 18:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by tayvrc2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally do not get too close to the people in my apartment complex for the fact that if they are noisy or you have any problems in the future it can make for a very uncomfortable friendship.
Be friendly not Keep your distance I say.
2007-09-17 17:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to hang out...then dont. but the maybe you will really enjoy their company! you never know!!! besides, the worst that can happen is if you dont enjoy it. maybe go out to dinner instead of something at their place, because then if it doesnt work out you can both just go home?? good luck.
2007-09-17 18:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by camille t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah , your being anti social be nice and dont smoke if you dont want to.unless they are crazy smoke all day people then relax and have a good time
2007-09-17 18:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd just avoid the "herb smoking" altogether.
2007-09-17 18:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mover50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah... druggie neighbor like you guys... how nice
2007-09-17 18:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by hellvet2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋