Ok well im going to be honost really for a secnd here....i really hope im not gay i really do not want to be and i dont want to be bi either but i look at girls and guys online i never really feel attracted to guys but i always find myself looking and who the girls say is the hottest guy in the 10th grade? anyways i always think girls are hot, really pretty and those things and i have a girlfriend i just need to know what you guys thank, serious answers only please....thanks
2007-09-17 10:23:44 · 42 answers · asked by Derek 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if the only thing you are doing is panicking because you look when someone says what guy is hot, you need to take 3 deep breaths and CALM DOWN!
Relax and breathe deep. Nothing is wrong with being gay [if you are], and if youre not, youre going to "worry" yourself into anemia.
2007-09-17 10:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you are gay? Your question is very confusing. If you are not attracted to men, you're not gay. It's no simpler than that. That doesn't mean you cannot find a man attractive. A securely straight man can certainly feel comfortable understanding what makes a man attractive, but if you think of yourself with the person in a relationship and sexually, you are likely gay.
Ask yourself what goes through your mind when you look at an attractive guy. If you just think "yeah, he's good looking", then you're probably not gay. If you think "he's good looking" and also fantasize about kissing him, you're probably gay. There are also theories supported by the Kinsey scale that suggest that human sexuality occurs on a continuum. You might place yourself at a 3 on a scale of 0-6.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 10:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by lostinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you are gay or not. That don't make you gay by focusing on the really hot guys along with the girls. What could make you gay is that you see those guys the same way the girls may see them. If you are lusting over them, then you may have a problem. You can try to avoid the confusion by stop looking at those guys with those girls. If for some reason you find out in the near future that you are then seek God's face with all of your heart. Some people are not gay but they choose to be gay.
2007-09-17 10:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand. If you are "never really attracted to guys." And you "always think girls are hot" and you have a girlfriend, why are you even asking this question? Being gay is feeling deep attraction and love toward a member of the same sex.
2007-09-17 11:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to get bogged down in labels.
You are in the 10th grade! I say you cannot control who you are attracted to just like you dont control who you fall in love with... it just happens..
Most people do experience at least one time in their life where there is an attraction to the same sex... Being Gay is not really a choice...but it is up to you if you act on that attraction.
Relax .. as it could just be a passing phase.
2007-09-17 10:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by truthwalker7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your probably going through a stage when i thought i was gay i accepted myself to be bi-curious so it doesnt really matter how you end up you know? since it will only make you happy.I think your problem is why your scared is because you think about what people are going to think about you and how this is going to effect your life you really dont want something like this. I know but at the end your going to have to end up accepting who you are gay or not it doesnt matter because its who you are not what other people want you to be. I guess the most you could do right now is experiment give it time you'll understand in the future
2007-09-17 11:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by theskyzblu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the sexuality part though. Question yourself: Do you like guys or girls genitalia? Also, you are still in high school. So, you may want to just question yourself. Being gay isn't really a choice either. It took me a while to figure out that I was gay. It may take you a while too. Don't worry.
2007-09-17 10:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All young guys go through this crisis, or many of them do. That is what my MOM told me once. She says it is totally normal for a guy to have those thoughts.
I say that you would know if you are 100% gay. To be bisexual, you have to be equally attracted to men as you are to women, or a 50/50 split. To be gay, you have to be totally turned off by women. To be curious, maybe it's something like 20/80 or 30/70. But definitely you would know it if you were gay. Don't worry. :-)
2007-09-17 10:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by August lmagination 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering that you're best in Middle tuition, it might nonetheless be within the air. If that is the way in which you felt this manner for many years, and nonetheless suppose love it someday, you might viable be "Gay". If that is the way in which you're, then that is who you're. You are very fortunate to be a lesbian, and no longer a homosexual boy. Both Genders have a tendency to be plenty extra kinder to a girl who's homosexual, then a boy. Guys will believe its "scorching", and women are plenty extra knowledge. You're mum and dad hindrance me although. Christians had been identified to be very near minded. Try citing the area to in a why that makes you no longer out within the open. Like, "There's this lady/man at tuition who clams to be homosexual. And every person is type of weirded out via it." Just whatever to get their opinion at the area. Also I'd advise telling your father first, Fathers ordinarily have extra knowledge to the daughter being homosexual, very similar to how so much Mothers have extra knowledge on a son being homosexual. If telling him this, you can elminate his worry of you ever courting and coming house pregnant. But what ever occurs, you must in most cases wait this out, simply to be certain its no longer a section. What does occur although, please replace this so we're going to understand what occurs of you.
2016-09-05 17:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by luzell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a rather long run on sentence dear, and it is a bit confusing at that.
To the best of my ability I have taken from that: you are attracted to girls, you are also attracted to the hottest guy in tenth grade(?).
If so it would seem you are simply heteroflexible. It is a term meaning you are predominately straight, but can find the same sex attractive at times.
2007-09-17 10:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be exactly how God made you to be, whether that is LGBT or straight. Neither human variation is "better" than the other, just like left-handed and right-handed people are basically the same.
You have no control over your inborn, natural orientation. This was decided for you at birth. So, why not resist labeling yourself until you understand fully how you were created?
Human sexual orientation comes in a WIDE spectrum. No matter what you discover about yourself, there will be others in the same place in the spectrum.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 10:30:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋