Tha last night I caused a dear friend a great deal of pain by a careless remark....It was meant as a joke but she was not amused to put it lightly....I have apologized but I fear this will not be enough.....any suggestion will be appreciated?
2007-09-17 09:55:38 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-09-17 10:35:27 · update #1
Thanks for the vote of confidence!!!!
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2007-09-17 11:11:03 · update #2
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2007-09-17 12:16:06 · update #3
Time. You explain yourself, apologize, and give her the time she needs to digest what happened. Hopefully, she'll understand and forgive you, when she's ready.
Good luck, my friend!! :)
((((John))))
2007-09-17 10:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Moon :) 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
If you feel she has not really accepted your apology, you could say something like, "I need to know whether you have forgiven me for my terribly thoughtless remark yesterday. It was a tasteless joke and I'm ashamed of myself." Chances are very good that she has forgiven you, but that she isn't good at accepting apologies. If she is still feeling prickly about it, offer to discuss it, and be very cautious about everything you say. If you keep real clear on the position that you were totally unjustified, you might talk about how you heard such dumb remarks as a child and everyone laughed, and you just had a regression or something. That's how many tasteless jokes get perpetuated: you heard it back in the days when such things were far more accepted, at least in certain circles. You get a little drunk, or start feeling the peer pressure of your "good ol' boys," and you say something which you know as soon as you've said it was incredibly stupid. All you can do is say, "I'm sorry; that was incredibly stupid and thoughtless, wasn't it!"
2007-09-17 17:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ehh; I didn't something similar, recently.
Actually, two things.
The first, someone made a humorous comment, and I replied sarcastically, also in humor--but he misunderstood, and thought I was implying that he would hit his girlfriend.
^^^^No, I was NOT saying ANYTHING like that. I'm still not sure how he got that interpretation, either.
I explained what I was saying, and though I think he is still shocked by what he THOUGHT I said, he has admitted that there is nothing to be angry about, in what I actually meant, in what I said.
The second, someone told me that he loved me. I thought he was kidding, and responded with "Haha. Niice." At that point, he was hurt, and sort of sheepish. He was hoping I'd say I loved him back, which I DO, but I thought he was kidding, so I didn't state it. He admitted that, after saying it, he felt "stupid," and said he'd just "shut up now." I felt like dirt, after he said that...
I sent him an apology, but he still has yet to receive it, so I'm not sure how things will work out...
I do, however, hope that things work out for you. Obviously, I make a lot of mistakes, and I'm not sure you can benefit from my advice, should I offer some. However, you're not alone, in your problem....
2007-09-17 18:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Time heals and as the others said, flowers help. If she is a true friend she will forgive you especially since you didn't mean to hurt her. I'm sure she's done the same to someone else at some time in her life. We all err. It's part of being human. But good friends are hard to come by.
2007-09-17 17:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nemesis you are making mistakes, you must apologize from your heart. But I know you don't intentionally hurt. And be careful I'm lurking. LOL
(((John O)))
2007-09-17 18:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she is indeed your friend, she will know you did not mean to hurt her. Just let her know you care deeply...that means a lot to a woman.
2007-09-17 21:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Flowers, box of chocolate, her favorite candy, um... Get her an I'm Sorry card.
2007-09-17 16:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by lil_rebell 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
((((((johnny))))))
there is lots of good advice here....
mostly just leave it alone for now. You've said your peice, and she needs time to respond. Give her some space.
blessings to you :)
2007-09-17 19:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
On line or in 'real' life?
Edit: If you have truly apologized...then it's in her court.
Giving her 'stuff' is not the answer.
Call/write, make sure she's ok.
that's all you can do.
(((John o)))
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2007-09-17 16:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
card, flowers, candy
2007-09-17 16:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋