i feel they try to defame me and rubbish my character, portraying me like i don't no anything. when i no alot.
plus i havent got alot of self esteem so
how should i deal with these people?
their trying to portray me as a degenerate person who has no self respect.
can anyone advise?
2007-09-17 09:52:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The problem is, that you think that you are the 'only one' that some idiot says that 'you' don't know any thing...I have a very very high I.Q., which I often do not flaunt, and I have been told by others on many occasions, that 'I didn't know anything"...well, I usually tell them, that they are assuming, that I don't know anything, and that only my dearest closest friends, realize, and know just what I know...and that I certainly, do NOT have to prove my 'intellegence' to them, or anyone else...that is the good thing about knowing what you are...you really don't care what others think...and you should'nt
2007-09-17 10:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone insults you then top it
If you can´t top it then be silent
If you can´t be silent then you probably deserve it.
If you really can´t get on with people then try to stay away from them. Also be aware that there is a partnership going on here between the victim and the victimizer. That person would not dream of insulting someone with a strong personality and I think you have put your finger on the problem when you talk about a lack of self esteem.
Another way to handle this is to think about a person that you admire and act according to how that person would act. Start with small things and work your way up. Best of luck.You have made a good start by recognizing the source of the problem.
2007-09-17 17:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't think ill of me for saying this. Human nature is not all bad, I really don't think they mean to make you feel that way.
I think that you and those you are talking about all lack some understanding.
TRUE WISDOM comes from knowledge, insight and understanding.
Then on top of that! good communication is a learned skill that takes time and patience.
So... IN ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION, I say, be patient. Do not try to compete with them. It sounds like it turns into a defence. This is affecting the way you feel about yourself. And is really too much energy to waste to bother with the issue.
If your not given the room to share your thoughts, move on and find others who want you to share your thoughts. lol PS If the people around you make you feel badly perhaps you should let them know by saying something like you're hurting my feelings and I don't have to put up with this, I'll see ya later, when your nice again.
2007-09-17 17:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to be mixing with a different group of people. Some people will always try to make others feel bad and treat life as a competition. Find a group of friends who respect you and love you for who you are. Don't bother with trying to impress the others. They are not worth your time. Do your best to get these people out of your life and surround yourself with happy, positive people.
PS. To the others who all they can do is bag spelling: Did it occur to you that English might be his second language? Instead of looking at how well the rest of his English is and answer his question, all you can do is focus on one flaw. You are the type of people I was just talking about.
Shoo, shoo.. go on, scurry away.
2007-09-17 17:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you come across to others. Your speech, grammar, body language, dress etc. all influence the thoughts of a listener. If you don't seem like you know what you are talking about then it doesn't matter if you do, no one will believe it.
2007-09-17 17:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by making sure you actually "know" what you are talking about. The more times you are proven right, you'll the respect you are looking for. Remember, respect is not given its earned.
The wisest among know that they don't know anything.
2007-09-17 17:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by jpistorius380@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can promise to learn to spell if they promise to praise you once you do.
2007-09-17 17:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you know tho more you discover things you don't.
2007-09-17 16:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Paparazzi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS KNOW NOT NO, AND KEEP IN MIND THAT AN EMPTY CAN RATTLES THE MOST
2007-09-17 17:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋