so what i want to know is what does everyone think about this they are very happy together and never do anything without the others permission they also have kids but this is for a dissagremeant we had so let us know what u all thank
2007-09-17 09:24:00 · 24 answers · asked by Candi E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well the dissagremeant was that she had been with his brother who lives with them but it was her husbands idea but i think its going to cause major problems
2007-09-17 09:36:21 · update #1
Swinging can't hurt a good marriage, only a bad one.
It's recrational sex, and as a group, the lowest instance of STD's there is. They know what they're doing, and take care of themselves.
Love and sex are different things, and now women are beginning to understand and embrace that.
My wife and I swing, and we have no problems sharing with others. We share our enjoyment, pleasing and being pleased. But we don't share our hearts.
2007-09-17 09:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by gromit801 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm with "gromit801" his answer was really good. Me and my boyfriend swing and our relationship is very open although I don't think he would be cool with me sleeping with his brother, nor would I want to. However, to each his/her own....if they have a strong marriage then it should withstand that and possibly even get stronger.
What a confident man, what a loving man that would give her that pleasure and not control her and treat her like property.
People need to realize that love and sex are not the same, this is why so many relationships are started for the wrong reasons and fail.
2007-09-17 10:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never ever met any swingers that were forever happy with this sort of relationship and furthermore have never met any that at some point didn't have serious problems as a result. I'm not talking about the kiddies here that have been swinging for a year or two. I'm talking about those who thought that they had chosen a way of life better than the conventional. and remained that way for quite some time. In the end whether sooner or later, I would look for some problems with your friends.
2007-09-17 09:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Looks like the disagreement was between you and the friend; are you trying to decide to swing with him/her and aren't sure of the spouse's permission?
2007-09-17 09:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by magdarra 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think swinging works for every couple, if a couple already has issues or one is just not as into it as the other, it can ruin the relationship....
2007-09-17 09:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are her friend then you really should not comment on how you think this is going to ruin her marriage. You should just be there to listen and help her if it does. Their relationship may be fine and it may not. You may end up damaging your friendship by speculating on her lifestyle. You need to decide if you accept it or not. If you accept it then don't lecture her on it. If you don't accept it then maybe you should sever the friendship.
2007-09-17 09:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by golfinggoddess 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What they do is really their business. If they are okay with it then good for them. People tend to put down things that they don't do to make themselves feel better. I think that is why a lot of people will look down on this behavior, but it is really just a matter of the people involved. I don't know if I would ever be okay with something like that in my relationship, but I wouldn't pass judgement on other people for doing it. It's really none of anyone elses business.
2007-09-17 09:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by damo 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
From personal experience....I think a lot of people use swinging as permission to have sex with others. I did this with my first husband...and our marriage took a severe blow...we are now divorced. Didn't think anything could come between us...I think some people are just kidding themselves if they think that swinging is just fun and will not affect their relationship...There are no guarantees....
With his brother??? That is so gross! So wrong on many levels...what is next? Having sex with animals?
2007-09-17 09:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
If this couple swings then that is their business and not anyone else's. It's whatever turns them on and some couples go for things like that. I do not approve of swinging but that is not any of my business.
2007-09-17 09:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's an invitation for disaster. It's a bad thing to let other people into a marraige, and how could any real man let another man touch his wife? It will come back to bite them in the a s s sooner or later in one way or another. No doubt. I'm sure they hide it from their kids, but someday, when their marraige is in ruins, or when their health has been ruined it will suck to be their kids. They will figure out that their parents had little respect for themselves, their marraige, and their family. Thus the kids will have little respect for them.
2007-09-17 09:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by blujello 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋