there is this girl at my school. this is her first year here, so i was friendly to her. the next day i went over to her house where she told me how she thought we where gonna be bffs forever. i dident think anything of it, but she did things like that in public starting the next week. she practicly stalks me in the halls, and emberesses me 24/7. my other friends comented on it, and are sorta mad that she is taking all my time. i am not the type of girl to tell her 2 backoff, but she does not get my ovious hints of my annoyence. HELP!!!!
2007-09-17 09:16:18 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh a time burglar. She must not have had many friends growing up. The only way is to honest and firm. Set limits with time burglars, i.e. I can hang out with you on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Then stick with the schedule. She just needs a few more friends and limits as to your friendship
2007-09-17 09:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the girl you all need to have a talk. When you do, just tell her that you like her and want to be her friend and all, but that you had other friends before her, that you would like to spend time with still. Tell her what makes you uncomfortable and embarassed, just be honest. If she doesn't take it well and understand, she wasn't your friend in the first place. Don't let her use your kindness for a weakness. BUT also, don't be rude. Popularity isn't everything and she may just have a hard time meeting new people. Try and encourage others you know to introduce themselves and encourage her to reach out more. Good luck, and just try and stay calm and be nice.
2007-09-17 09:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her aside and tell her you can hang out but you sort of need to breath a little and If she totally understands than shes the type of girl to hang out with but If she throws a tantrum than back off her and tell someone. Stalkers are very dangerous(Sometimes) because you dont know what there going to do next. But Im pretty sure shes not going to break into your house at night and try to kill you with an ax (lol) like a physco would do. Hook her up with a girl who you think is lonely without any friends and im sure the'll be unseperateable. It's worth a try!
Hope everything works out!
2007-09-17 09:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce her to other people that she may have more in common with. Then be polite but honest that she's doling out too much attention on you and it bothers you. Tell her to not try so hard and just be herself. It's hard being the newby on the block. Try to think how you might feel in her shoes starting off a new year somewhere else and you don't know anyone.
2007-09-17 09:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Carol T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, i know exactly what you're talking about. for 5 years since 6th grade ive dealt with a person whose name i wont mention for obvious reasons. he is arguably the absolute annoying person on the face of the planet. his hobbies include asking random people for money, messing with your computer when you're not looking (often causing it to freeze and shut down), and grabbing people's things and running off. i find that they are often seeking attention and will usually listen to pretty much everything you tell them to do. if she comes up while you're hanging out with other friends just ignore her until you're done. if she starts to interupt, politely tell her that interupting is rude and continue on with your conversation. if it persists then sit her down and talk to her and tell her that she needs to just lighten up a little. now i know that i probably sound like a teacher and/or a parent, but im actually just a 16 year old guy that has a problem with another guy in school and has had alot of experience. by the by i really hope this helps because im usually pretty good at advice but never with someone ive not met so i really hope this works out for you
2007-09-17 09:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by clarkx200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you dont want to be rude and tell her to backoff but i think at the same time you need to have a talk. No its not easy but it must be done so you dont end up hating each other.
2007-09-17 09:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you put yourself in the other girl's shoes? Why don't you introduce her to your friends and help her find ways to meet other people she could become friends with. How would you feel if someone else was talking about you this way and you were new in a school and didn't know anyone? It's tough to be a new kid in school!
2007-09-17 09:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh....toughie. Well don't be too mean, but be firm. Next tim she asks you to come over just say your busy. And dont ever ask her to do anything talk to your other friends in the halls so it'll be harder for her to talk to you. Hopefully she'll get the picture, if not you might have to be a little mean.
2007-09-17 09:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Running on Adrenaline4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a break, she is new and needs to feel she belongs. Your friendship is very helpful to her right now. As she meets others her need to cling to you will lighten up.
I'm obviously alot older than you, but when I was growing up my family moved constantly because of my Dads job. I went to 12 different schools in 12 years- it sucks to be the new kid. Be nice and help her to meet others.
2007-09-17 09:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything in your power to stay away from her til she latches on to someone else. Make it a point to spend more time with your other friends and find things to do that keeps you away from her. Try to make sure you have one of your other friends with you in the halls. That way you have someone to help difuse the situation.
2007-09-17 09:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋